One friend of my fiance called that he was in town and it has been years since they don't see each other. Hes married and have kids and this was the first time I met him. We were at my fiance moms house all together and then he comes BUT with a women that is not his wife. His wife is far away working, taking care of the house and the kids..while this men is bringing someone outside from the marriage.
So he enters and everybody stand up to greet him so I let my fiance introduce me to his friend and then I walk very far so he doesnt get the chance to introduce this women to me. Since he arrive I was so annoyed and I was thinking and saying to myself he has a lot of nerves to do something like that. Plus that my fiances mom met his wife and kids and shes like nothing instead shes celebrating and talking to this women. In my case I didnt want to participate in these things because I wouldnt want that to happen to me and because of that I wouldnt want that to happen to another wife.
I told my fiance and I made myself very clear that I dont allow, accept, support any of these and that I dont like his friend. What on earth Im going to be able to talk to a women like that? nothing=cero. Every time I think of that it makes me feel angry and disgusted.
I also said that if it was a diferent scenario and we were at our house and his friend did that I wouldve told him immediately that hes not allowed to do those things in my house and this women would never be able to put a foot in my house mainly because of the respect that he has to give me because is not anymore about my fiance but us as a couple.
I didnt like this situation because in a couple of months we are going to relocate and Im going to meet his wife and I feel guilty and I dont know what to do. I hate this man and what hes doing to his wife even if they have problems or not he shouldnt be doing that at all. Now I feel bad because I know something that she doesnt know and he indirectly and directly made me an accomplice of his ugly and disgusting game. Well now besides that I have an issue with my fiances mom because it showed me that she doesnt care and that shes open to those things and is okay with that. In other words I know that if we have issues shes going to (for sure) support my fiance if he does something wrong. I pray not because I trust him but this is more about his mom.
What would you do in this case? How you would deal with this situation because I dont know how to explain it but a lot of "friends" instead of doing good things end up creating a toxic friendship with the way they carry themselves and that indirectly or directly can have an impact in others person behaviors. Well also that depends if the other person wants to accept negative things and do them.
I dont know this showed me unfortunately how my fiances mom is in that particular matter and I really didnt like it plus that she doenst like me but thats another story. In your case what would you do. My fiance told me that he didnt know that he was going to bring this women and that he didnt like that at all. Good thing we dont have to see him for a while but soon or later in a couple of months we are going to see him again and his family. Is not my place to say anything to his wife because I dont even know her but oh boy I feel guilty that hes screwing around and that hes like nothing and plus put me in this position.
Im sorry for writing so much but I needed to vent and get assertive opinions on how to manage this situation the best I can.
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