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What should I do?

I left for Baltimore early Monday morning and I found out my neighbor's son was killed in a car accident he was 21. We sent a fruit basket to the house. There are tons of people there today. I know they are Muslim and I wanted to stop by but would that be intruding? Should I wait? My son plowed there driveway early this morning. I feel so bad but do not want to intrude.


Asked by DJDNY at 12:34 PM on Feb. 9, 2013 in About CafeMom

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Answers (17)
  • Oh my gosh! That's awful! I'm sorry. :(
    Wait until it calms down a bit, then go over with your condolences.

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 12:40 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • I'd stop by tomorrow.

    Answer by 3libras at 12:36 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • Knowing them, they are probably expecting you. It's customary to visit no matter what faith. You may not be close with them, but they know you and your son...just bring flowers

    Answer by madmueller at 12:37 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • depend show close you are to them
    if very close- early stop by fine
    if not that close- wait a bit
    fruit basket and help with plowing- very nice
    might want to ask neighbors if there is a sign up for food to bring
    might be overloaded on casseroles/dinners at the start

    Answer by fiatpax at 12:42 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • I would wait till there aren't quite so bombarded.

    Answer by kmath at 12:41 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • I was numb when my dad died and heard people visited but I was in too much shock to remember it. Personally, I'd wait. You sent the fruit basket and did the driveway. Now let things settle down. Then go visit

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:46 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • How heartbreaking!

    I guess I'd probably wait a bit till it calms down over there, then visit. Also, maybe drop in with a gift certificate to a nearby grocery store so the family can fill in with the food that is needed, based on what has already been brought. Fresh fruit was a good idea.

    Answer by Ballad at 12:48 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • sunshine196

    Answer by sunshine196 at 12:43 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • OMG! How sad :(

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:54 PM on Feb. 9, 2013

  • That's terrible. I would wait a couple of days and then pay them a visit. Maybe put your contact info in a card and let them know that if there is anything they might need to not hesitate to call you.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 1:09 PM on Feb. 9, 2013