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Her choice to take a shower

Do I force my 9 yr old to take a shower or do I let her wallow in her own stink?

She is old enough to take a shower by herself and I get tired of arguing about it. She is home schooled so its not like she goes out very much but when we do I make sure that her hair is brushed and stuff I won't let her visibly go nasty. I just braided her hair and showed her the mound that came out on the brush hoping that its enough to say "this is what happens when you don't wash or take care of your hair" she said " I'll take a shower next time

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Asked by wifey000175554 at 3:22 PM on Feb. 10, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • You MAKE kids shower
    Do you let her choose whether or not to brush her teeth too?

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:23 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • You're her mother. You make her take a shower. Good grief, this is your job as a parent

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 3:25 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • She is only 9, she doesn't get to choose whether or not she takes a shower. You make her take one, no matter how inconvenient that might be to you, that is your job.

    Answer by kmath at 3:28 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • Does she have sensory issues? Does she have a reason for not showering? Maybe the shower spray is bothering her? Would she take a bath?

    Answer by musicmaker at 3:30 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • I would say 'Nothing else can happen until you take a shower. First we take a shower then play then we have dinner. The family is not going to wait for you because we all finished what we needed to do before dinner. It is your choice what you want to do today. But nothing else can happen today until you finish the shower and are clean.

    and I would stick by it. If all she did was sit at the table until bed time- so be it.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 3:25 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • 9? Granddaughter is 9 and I'm not entirely sure of what her choice would be, if given.... You're the mom, no matter what age, you are STILL the mom. You make the rules, NOT them. You force the issue.

    Answer by m-avi at 3:30 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • For now, this isn't a choice. You make her do it no matter how unhappy it makes her. My 11 yo dd is just now coming around on this and doesn't hate it anymore. I "make" her take a shower every other day (and days where she is very active, sweaty or otherwise dirty), then she has a choice on the off days, now she is starting to take a shower almost every day. Just build it into your schedule and stick to it. If you are consistent about it, she will soon stop fighting it and just accept it.

    Answer by missanc at 3:38 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • My kids don't have a choice. When I say shower, they shower. 11, 9, & 7 yo girls, 5yo boy. They don't get a choice in that yet.

    Answer by idareyou at 3:44 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • Even though she may not leave the house everyday she still needs to maintain her cleaniness. Just keep reminding her and everything else does not happen until her shower is done.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 3:23 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

  • There isn't a choice in this.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 3:33 PM on Feb. 10, 2013

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