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I'm a bartender. This chick Liz & her hubby Jim come up to the bar, & I got to know them & introduced them to dh. We all started hanging out a lot, over the past few mos. But every time we'd go to another bar her ex bf would be there, and she'd leave her hubby & talk to the ex, or have drinks w/ him. She'd text me occasionally, to see what we were up to for the wknd, & vice versa. Then she texted and asked if the phone # on their bill was my hubby's. Which it was.
Liz texted me a couple wks ago saying her marriage was on the rocks, and asking if I could have dh text her hubby because he prob. needed a friend to talk to. Which hubby did. We hung out w/ them that wknd & things seemed fine.
My hubby is an otr truck driver, and he calls me every night. About 2 wks ago, he called asking if Liz had called me. She hadn't. He said that she had texted him the night before @ 1am, asking if he & I would still be her friend & hang out w/ her because Jim wanted a divorce, and she was so upset, loved him so much, and didn't understand why he didn't want to be w/ her. (They have only been married 2 yrs. Together 7) She wanted dh to call him & talk him out of the divorce.
Dh told her he was pulled over in W. Memphis, because there was a really bad storm going on, & she should call me in the morning, because he & I had been through something similar a few yrs ago, and I'd understand what she was going through, & could maybe help her out. I had already been telling her, that I was here if she ever needed to talk or whatever. But she continued to text him that night, going on & on about how hurt she was, etc. until hubby just stopped texting her back.
The next day I worked & she came up w/ her cousin, (who is a reg. @ my bar) She only talked to me, when her cousin went out to smoke, or went to the bathroom. I told her I was sorry she was going through this, & I was here if she needed me. That I'd been in the same position & understood what she was going through. Then the weather came on the bar tv, showing that there had been tornado warnings, and bad storms in W. Memphis the night before. She looked at me & said, "Yeah, I was up late last night, and saw all the bad weather down south, & I was hoping that your husband wasn't in that area, caught up in that weather...."
Liz never mentioned that she had texted my hubby, or anything. Since that night she texted me once asking if dh & I were going out. She's texted my hubby a few times since then, but never on the wknds when he's home... He stopped responding to her texts though.
I feel like she's being kind of shady. Why would she only text hubby when he's out during the week, late at night, while he's away? And why wouldn't she tell me that she texted him, if she was only trying to get him to help her out w/ getting her hubby not to divorce her? Why would she all of a sudden stop texting me, & only text him? I understand she's hurting right now, but it just seems wrong to me.....
Answer by staciandababy at 5:10 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
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Answer by lovekitchenmama at 5:29 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Sounds to me like she is trying to get with your DH. Need to nip that in the bud.
Answer by louise2 at 5:37 PM on Feb. 11, 2013