I am in a struggle of wills with my 4 yr old dd. She just a A LOT of food, another growth spurt I think. She ate 1 whole boneless chicken breast, a whole red pepper raw, a glass of milk, then juice, then a hand full of chips from daddy. Its been a little over an hour, I made her sit on the potty for about 10 minutes. She peed, but no poop. In the past, she wouldn't go when we asked her to, then I would get busy, next thing I know, she poops. This has happened lots of times and she does know better! We did the reward system, but to no avail. This potty training thing has me pulling my hair out!!!! I do know there will be accidents, I understand this. But lately she has been doing it on purpose. Like this week, I would sit her down on the potty, she would just sit there and do nothing. Then she gets up 10 or so minutes later sometimes more, she would pee and poop, or just pee and completely soak herself and whatever she happens to be sitting on. So I told her next time she does this I will take a toy away, and she will get it back when she goes potty, no tinkling allowed. I have 5 of her favorite toys. Well if this doesn't work, at least it will clean up her room...:(
What am I doing wrong?? Please help me!!!!!
Answer by girlwithC at 9:22 AM on Feb. 12, 2013
Answer by Crafty26 at 11:22 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Answer by HappyEndings at 11:30 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
uhm... IDK... but they don't just poop on command! Just b/c the timing for you is convenient doesn't mean they need to poop right then.
I payed my son a quarter for every time he went on the potty, and took a quarter back if he went in his pull-up. It took one weekend b/c he didn't like giving up the money. You have to find the reward that "sings" to them.
If you punish it will become a HUGE control thing. Every expert in the world will tell you punishing is the exact opposite of how you should handle it - going to the bathroom should be stressful. Being punished makes it stressful and will work against you.
Answer by Crafty26 at 11:09 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
*** with the money thing... it wasn't a punishment... it was all in a jar labeled "Potty Money"... if he did what he was supposed to I moved money to his jar... if not I moved money to "Mom's" jar... so it wasn't a punishment... but he was making money by doing the right thing. It never would have worked if he though I was actually taking HIS money! LOL
Answer by Crafty26 at 11:13 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 11:18 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 11:56 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Answer by girlwithC at 9:02 AM on Feb. 12, 2013
Answer by Anonymous at 11:07 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
Answer by HappyEndings at 11:08 PM on Feb. 11, 2013
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