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How do I get my son to leave our puppy alone?

Hes constantly making her crazy by waving his hands or other objects in her face, making her bark, squeezing her etc. Its driving me nuts! Hes 6 btw. Im constantly telling him to stop, or he loses his privelages of playing with her. That doesnt seem to stop him though. What would you do in this situation?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:10 AM on Feb. 15, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Get rid of the dog, he's 6 he's going to bug the dog because its a new thing to play with the novelty will wear off soon.

    Answer by funlovinlady at 10:11 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Start putting him in time out everytime you have you have to get on him about it. Maybe even tell him if he can't treat the puppy good and not bother him/her then you will have to get rid of it since he can't handle it.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 10:11 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • this is what kids do with animals...

    tell him that playing with the puppy is ok, but it also wants to be left alone sometimes too.

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:14 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Find the dog a safe place in the house, where your son isn't allowed to enter, period. Get a crate and make him a little den in there, so that when the puppy has had enough play time with your kid, he can go to the crate and be left alone.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 10:28 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Show him what TO do.
    Try to assume positive intent (he wants to interact, he wants to play, he wants to "connect," he is excited and feels enthusiastic & affectionate...), try to realize that the frustrating things are happening for these ultimately good reasons, and acknowledge this in the way you respond--by providing info about more acceptable/tolerable ways to meet those same needs or goals. (Rather than negating them by stopping/scolding him.)

    If you suspect that sometimes what's more acceptable/tolerable actually would be giving the puppy a break, then try to substitute contact/connection with someone else (yourself!) at those times in order to meet his need. When you want him to stop entirely (not just to play in a different, less frustrating way for the pup) then don't rely on instructing him, but rather actively engage him in something that brings him along with you. Substitute a real connection.

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:59 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Given most pups, I think just giving him the info for how TO play in a way that doesn't get her in a frenzy or hurt her will be the answer for most times. You'd be facilitating their relationship. Consider that he wants to connect but is unsure exactly how, or doesn't recognize the problem with what he tends to do now.

    My little guys still tend to hold their hands out (above the cats) when they want to pet them. So the cat is left tilting his head up, looking at the suspended hand, and then is (inevitably) likely to rise up and try to bat at the hand floating there. And the boys are tentative because they don't want to be batted at or swiped at, yet their "approach" to petting actually encourages this! When I recognize the dynamic & can communicate in a way that helps them see what to do differently (not just "instructing" them, like "Don't leave your hand hanging up there!") it helps them see HOW to reach in & pet.

    Answer by girlwithC at 11:10 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • You need to show him how people should play nice with puppies take him by the hand and sit down on the floor and show him how to pet the dog, how to treat the dog and to be loving towards the dog. He needs to know that puppies are little and have tiny bodies and if you mistreat them that the puppy will end up biting them or be mean to people. Give him chores to do, put food in the dogs bowl take the dog on little walks. Maybe he just feels like he is not the "center" of attention, that the puppy is...

    Answer by madmueller at 11:20 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • I agree with the answers you've gotten. The novelty will wear off soon, but it's important that you teach your son how to be kind to animals and play with them in a way both he and they will enjoy. Maybe get a soft brush with rubber bristles, which won't hurtthe puppy, and let him groomher a bit. Try to get him to cuddle with the pup while he watches a movie or whatever.

    Answer by Ballad at 11:59 AM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Sounds to me like he doesn't know how to play with the puppy. Take a few minutes and teach him things that he can do...throw a ball, play tug of war, chase each other around the yard.

    Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 12:13 PM on Feb. 15, 2013

  • Have you shown him how to play with the dog and how to tell when the puppy says no? Have you provided a safe place for the puppy to go that i totally off limits to your son. If you have then instant time out.

    You can also call the dog to you to stand where ever you are (circle of protection.

    You can not expect you son to just KNOW how to play ore when to backoff, YOU have to teach them, both.

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:53 PM on Feb. 15, 2013

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