We adopted DD as an infant. She is 7 now. It's an open adoption and we have visits with the BFamily a few times a year (although due to recent events, no longer BMom). The subject of adoption is not taboo in our house and we talk with DD about it usually right before we have a visit...well, talk TO her about it until she finally tells us to stop after the first few sentences because she just does not want to talk about it.
She has never really wanted to talk about it. When asked why, she has always said she doesn't know. Before the past couple of visits, she has started to say that she doesn't want anyone to know what is in her head and wants to keep what she is thinking private. We've asked if she thinks she will hurt one of us by saying what is on her mind and she says no. We always tell her that she can tell us anything about what she is feeling or thinking and we will not be mad or upset and will love her no matter what and that if she doesn't want to talk to us, she can always talk to someone else (BFamily, grandparents, counselor, etc.). She still does not want to talk about it.
Is this something we should be concerned about? Or are we over-reacting to this? I'm just not sure that this is a subject that she really should be keeping things bottled up inside (especially since BMom's arrests)...but I'm not sure what to do about it.
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