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Teen parent drama

I had a question awhile back called pregnancy/lesbian, you guys can search it please read it and help me on giving my son some advice. The young lady popped up at my house on saturday (2/9) asking my son is he going to come sign some birth papers and he told her no, because of the blood test that suppose to be taken, so she gives birth like 5 days ago and her girlfriend been posting pics on facebook , so today she comes over asking for him he wasn't at home and so her grandmother storms my door getting mad asking for my son like she wants to fight him, talking about her granddaughter brought her baby for me to see after her mother told me 2 days ago she don't know me or can trust her baby with me , so i decline to see, so now they're mad, this situation is messy. My son wants to pay child support checks to the mother and if she declines the money, how does he move on to make sure she receives the payments anyway

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:18 PM on Feb. 16, 2013 in Relationships

Answers (11)
  • DNA first, then let the courts settle everything later. Stay out of it.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 4:27 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • i agree with pga
    DNA first,easy, not expensive and results in two weeks
    then decide what next step is

    good luck
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 4:33 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • i'm trying to stay out of it, but the family is getting mad, because we're not involved . my son and her doesn't talk at all.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 5:32 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • Wouldn't this be your grandchild? why not get involved, this is in my book is a privilege any way it is conceived...
    older

    Answer by older at 5:47 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • Yep, DNA then send the payments to the court if he is the father. If she refuses the payments he can always set up a bank account for the child and give it to the child at age 18.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 5:48 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • Yep, DNA test first. See if it is actually his. Then go to court. Get the CS documented. And visitation. We knew some one who paid CS before court ordered. She lied and said he never gave her a dime. He had to pay from the time the child was born.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 6:00 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • the girl grandmother yelling that she brought the baby specifically for me to see, but my son hasn't even seen the baby, i didn't understand that
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:42 PM on Feb. 16, 2013

  • Make sure this is his child with a DNA test and then go to court.
    Make sure his lawyer knows exactly what he wants and what he is willing to give/provide.
    Does he want to see this child at all or does he simply want to pay the child support but remain completely ourt of the picture.
    Have him try to think of all possible condititions. What is the mothe dies or is abusive? What if her new partner at sometime wants to adopt? You can lay all of this out as a settlement before you go into court, IF the DNA proves to be a match.
    She will probablly have some ideas what she wants.

    Did she tell you BTW what it is she wants by coming to your door?
    You may or mayne have some prandparental rights as well should you want them, depending on your state laws. You would also need a lawyer.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:18 AM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • Make sure you get the blood test done and if it comes back that he is the father let him be apart of the child life and pay child support. He is trying to be a good person and in my book doing a good job at it. You just need to be supportive of him./
    Im-HiDdEn

    Answer by Im-HiDdEn at 10:22 AM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • ok
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 10:27 AM on Feb. 18, 2013

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