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I have a 5 year old son and the only father he has known is not the bio father. The bio father pays child support and is never behind but he messaged me the other day and now wants to have his son on the weekends. Im afraid of what this might do to my son. He is just now doing good in school and i dont want that to change. The father that he does know isnt happy and doesn't want my son to see his bio father. I am in a bad situation and I need as much advice as i can get. thanks!Answer Question
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:29 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
The longer you'redishonest with your son the harder it is to tell him. It's easier for children to just accept the situation when they are younger. Unless the bio dad is documented as being dangerous for your son to be around it's his legal right. You can put off visitation but if the bio dad wants to pursue this the law is on his side. See if you can talk to a lawyer about drawing up a visitation schedule and talk to your son. The father he has always known new the situation from the start, so he's going to have to get used to the idea.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 10:35 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
Answer by LeJane at 10:53 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
Answer by LeJane at 11:01 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
So he has not seen the kids in how many years? Sense he is threatening. I would tell him. To go to court then. I would just inform him he has not attempted to be in his sons life for___years. And all of a sudden you want to take him for the weekend? NO! I would tell him the truth about the son not knowing he is his dad. And we need to take it slowly.
And for your DH/SO. It might bother him this is happening. But he has no control over this. He knew when he got together with you this boy had a bio dad.
Answer by louise2 at 11:03 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
Don't go by his word about his other kids and their moms. Is their any way you can talk to the other moms? if their is talk to them about visitation. Just for info about the bio dad. Best thing for you to do is go talk to a lawyer if possible. See what your rights are. Were you ever married to this guy? Is he on the birth certificate? Was their a DNA test doen?If not he has no right to the kid.
Answer by louise2 at 11:41 AM on Feb. 17, 2013
Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:53 AM on Feb. 17, 2013