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As awful as it is, I was thinking about this today.

Dh and I don't make a great deal of money. We make due with what we have and we live with on our means. As a family of 4 that means we live in a lower income area, we skip the cable, we don't eat whatever we want, we shop frugally, using Goodwill quite a bit and we go out to eat once or twice a month- if we go at all. We have to plan for large purchases and save up and vacations are kept at the very minimum...

anyway I was thinking about HOW different life would be is we only had one kid...or even no kids! Living within our means would be something completely different. Shoot even if we had two children of the same sex instead of the opposite sex that would save us a great deal of money as well with them having more hand me downs and the ability to share a room...

Do you ever just sit and think about those kinds of things... what life would be like with out kids or with more or less kids... just how things could be different... or is it just me.

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Asked by But_Mommie at 6:20 PM on Feb. 17, 2013 in Just for Fun

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  • There have been times when I have thought of how much more freedom I would have.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 6:22 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • I thought earlier today that I feel as if I am failing my children by not working and not being able to provide them better things. and always being stressed out because we barely have enough money to pay our bills.

    Answer by staciandababy at 6:25 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • I have had those thoughts too. And this is the really bad one: What would life be like if DS did not have Autism? I feel so guilty when I think about those things... but they just pop in my head!

    Comment by But_Mommie (original poster) at 6:27 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • I have thought about it, not with longing, because I am happy with our children.

    Answer by Bmat at 6:29 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • I' m happy with mine as well! I just can't help but wonder about how things could be different if I had made different choices!

    Comment by But_Mommie (original poster) at 6:31 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • 2 plus years of court battle over custody has left me with big debt

    while he pays for nothing, i go broke
    he does nothing for our daughter, i do everything

    it is hard, very hard

    i would change my pocketbook, but would not change my situation
    it has to be this way because the dice rolled that way
    and my daughter deserves all i can give

    hugs, know the autism path well- makes it much harder

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:32 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • It's normal, baby doll, so don't feel guilty. I sometimes wonder what my life would've been like if I hadn't had DD, or if she didn't have CP. But, we love our babies, take good care of them, & that's so much more important than any rich kid being raised by a nanny & never really knowing their parents.

    Answer by KA91 at 6:33 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • My sister never had kids. She couldn't. She and her husband go out to eat every weekend. They buy new cars every 2 years, and they have half a million dollars in the bank. They are both retied now, and neither is 65. Together they made between 70 to 80 thousand. In S. Califonia, that's not a lot. However, I wouldn't trade my 2 kids for her life. I might have a lot less money, but my kids are my joy.


    Answer by musicmaker at 6:33 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • I understand that. I sometimes think about how much easier it must be for other parents to be raising typical children.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 6:34 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

  • Sure I wonder how my life may have been different if any decision I made along the way had different. I don't think it would have been better but it's interesting to imagine what I'd be doing. I do reminisce about the awesome vacations DH and I took before we had kids, I affectionately refer to this time in our life as B.C. ( before children).


    Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:34 PM on Feb. 17, 2013

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