he controls the whole marriage and is in charge of everything. so yesterday was his birthday and he got angry that he was going to buy his ice cream cake from the next town over. he said you could of baked one and i said yeah and you said you don't like it...i also bought ice cream cake previosuly from my neighborhood and he does not like that brand...so seriously he is in charge ...and yet he wants me to do things for him but there is no way this is working. he resents me and pushes me out of the way while cooking and tells me to move and to get out of the way... i really can not stand him..then his sister asked me how i knew someoone got married and happen to say through the grapevine and he yelled out just say facebook...and so i told him off and that he should not get pissed and how ridiculous he was being towards me. he received a gift of $500 and so usually we put some in the bank but this time he wants it all for himself and he told me how he does nto want me putting my clothes in certain areas of our bedroom meanwhile he is the biggest slob..... my mom is living with us and can not believe how my life ended up taking care of old people including his mom who is the biggest attention whore and will not even lift her own glass or plate...says she has eye issues so i am slaving it every single time she comes over...i can tell a million and one more stories but my mom said that either i go to counseling , go out with frineds and she told me even if they are male i need some normalcy in my life... i feel so verbally abused and chasitsed that of course i end up getting attention from others... my mom wants my marriage to work but thinks i need to assert myself or else he will now say that what i do is not enough to take care of her and him and my child as well. he is such a bully i really can not stand him...help..
Asked by Anonymous at 5:47 AM on Feb. 18, 2013 in Relationships
Why is he so angry? Have you asked him why he is always annoyed with you & why he is always in a mood? I think your Mom is adding to the aggravation that's going on in your house too. Three adults is a crowd & too many opinions. Although of course she wants you to be happy. Can you, the kids & your Mom get another place? If you own then tell him to leave. See a Divorce Attorney before you make any moves. Don't tell him you are going. Maybe see an Attorney while your Husband is at work. I think if your Husband has no solution to his animosity towards you then it's best to move on.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 9:12 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
Answer by hellokittykat at 6:12 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 11:29 PM on Feb. 18, 2013
To summarize more simply:
Stay = you (miserable) + him (miserable) = kids (miserable, difficult to raise, lifelong issues)
Leave = you (happy) + him (happy) = kids (happy in the long run because both mommy & daddy are happy and can be there for them more)
Now which choice do you think is better?
Answer by hellokittykat at 6:17 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
This relationship is going to end eventually. He will continue to grow more difficult and your tolerance continue to erode. Do you want to wait to leave or leave now. Start looking at what you need for yourself to make a life for you and your kids. This relationship is terrible for you and your children.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:25 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
Sound to me like you have already made up your mind to leave. You just need to do it. I imagine you will be bring your mom. You need to sit down with her and inform her of what you are about to do. Make it clear, even if she leaks it to him. You still are going through with it.
Answer by louise2 at 7:45 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
Answer by Im-HiDdEn at 8:14 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
Answer by hotmama404 at 11:06 AM on Feb. 18, 2013
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Answer by Ballad at 1:45 PM on Feb. 18, 2013