They were married for 30 years and divorced for 30 years. Neither remarried or had contact with each other after the divorce. Dad died a year ago in the state we grew up in. My brother, myself and Mother live in the same state now - not the state we grew up in. My brother and I are having our own private memorial and spreading the ashes at a place we used to go as kids. We were shocked when, shortly after Dad died our Mother was upset that we hadn't invited her to the memorial. No plans had been made at that time. Now we are planning to have the memorial in a few months. Our plan is to let our Mother know that we are going to have a private memorial and don't feel confortable with her being there. However, we want to acknowledge her feelings and would be happy to give her some of Dad's ashes so that she can have her own memorial. What do you think about our plan?
Answer by RyansMom001 at 5:00 PM on Feb. 18, 2013
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Answer by older at 3:16 PM on Feb. 18, 2013
I think she should have the option... he was the father of her children no matter what happened after that. It's normal for her to grieve the fact that her children lost their father as well.
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