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Do you arrange play dates for your kids?

If so, at what age did you start with play dates? My kids are in extracurricular activities--2 each/week--I work outside the home, and when I'm not working, I like to spend time with them. Recently, I've been wondering if I am causing them to miss out by not setting up play dates with other kids (beyond school, of course). Thoughts?

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Asked by Chocolatespring at 9:34 AM on Feb. 22, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • My middle son has a every Friday sleepover with his best friends, usually at our house then they all move onto someone else's house on Saturday. My 3 yo dd has her best friend over twice a week after Pre school.( her daddy works 3rd shift, so he comes over and naps on the couch while they play). My 1 yo has a little friend that we play with about every two weeks, we usually meet at the malls play place.

    Answer by funlovinlady at 9:40 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • Not really anymore. I used to when she was 2 until she was around 5. But once school started, it just never seemed needed. I am friends with some of her friend's moms, so we will go places or do things all together (zoo, ice skating, movies, Chuck E Cheese, etc.)...but it's not what I would consider a "playdate"...just out with friends.

    Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 9:40 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • we never did

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 9:54 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • Play dates are not an obligation. Your children are either in daycare or school and already have extracurricular activities. What do you think they might be missing out on?

    I don't know how old your children are but mine only started to ask for play dates around the age of 7-8. Yes, we do them but, as they are now 10, there is a minumum of stress involved.

    Don't beat yourself up about this. If they felt they were missing out on something, trust me, they'd tell you! :)

    Answer by winterglow at 10:01 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • yes
    daughter is 5.5
    started at 3 with neighbor kids- when one was too tired to continue- could end it easy
    kids from school- a bit later than other moms, i started at 4.5, and for hour and a half
    sometimes she just could not be social, and it did not go too well
    now at 5..5- she can usually do 2 hours, sometimes 2.5, anything more (or if she is just not having a good function day), it does not go well

    daughter has autism

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:04 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • play dates at our school, are the thing to do
    and even school encourages them (was even stated in a ore they sent home)

    we have less play dates than others, and seem to get less invites (which is fine- i get it)

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:05 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • Not really, but I need to arrange play dates for myself or else I would never see my friends.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 11:00 AM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • Once or twice I have, but not usually. There are neighborhood kids my daughter sometimes plays with, and she has a lot of kid time at preschool.

    Answer by Ballad at 12:56 PM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • I think play dates are important for you and your children. The kids play and the adults talk. I feel once adults have children they lose that adult interaction time. This is a fun and easy way to get it.

    Answer by MrsMorrell at 2:04 PM on Feb. 22, 2013

  • I have never really pushed playdates, but my daughter had some when she was in preschool. My sons (preschool aged twins) haven't had any playdates. I could joke that it's like a playdate every day, which is true, but really it's more that they don't have other kids that they know. The kids they know tend to be older kids (friends of their big sister) who take an interest in them & have built relationships (at birthday parties, at the lake in summer, at school functions and even just daily after school pickup) but they don't have "playdates." Their violin lessons include private lessons & weekly group lessons, so this is their first "group" experience with other kids their age, since we opted not to send them to preschool.
    Last week was our school vacation week & my daughter had a playdate one of those days (was invited to spend the day with one of her school friends.) Those "extra" connections tend to happen during vacations.

    Answer by girlwithC at 12:50 PM on Feb. 23, 2013

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