So, I have a 2 1/2 year old little boy, who ABSOLUTELY LOVES playing with his cousins, that live less than 10 minutes away. Well, for the past few months, my sister-in-law, has decided that she hates the entire family and can't wait to divorce my brother-in-law and move out. Not really sure what happened, and her husband doesn't know what happened either, other than she went to visit her side of the family back in June and came back with this attitude. (They have a 7 year old, and an almost 4 year old.) She has gone absolutely crazy, in the fact that she hasn't been to a family get together since June, she won't talk to anyone in the family, and now she doesn't want her girls around anyone in her husband's side of the family. My bil is trying to keep the peace while she is still there, and won't really stand up to her, but it's starting to affect the kids. My son asks me ALL the time when he can play with his cousins again. Every day he tells me, "Mommy, I wanna play with Mace, when can I play with Mace?" And I never know what to tell him. Well yesterday, I talked to my bil, and he packed Mace a bag for her to come and spend the night. My little boy was so excited! And so was his cousin! We set up a play tent in his room for them to sleep in, they stuck together the entire day, and we were planning on making homemade pizzas for dinner and cake pops for dessert. They were having such a blast, until my bil showed up and informed us that my sil wanted Mace to go home and that she didn't need to be here and she didn't need to stay the night. Both the kids were heartbroken, and were really confused why she wasn't staying the night anymore. My son kinda flipped out when his cousin left, and kept saying "I wanna go with Mace!" And I just had to sit there and listen to him cry... I feel so bad because there's nothing I can do.. Everyone in this side of the family has kept their mouth shut when it comes to what my sil is doing, and won't approach her, but it's affecting the kids now. As a mom, my main concern is for the kids. I want to say something to her, but not sure if I should or just keep my mouth shut. There's so many more things that have happened, and none of us know what to do..
As a mom, what would you do if this was your child?? What would you do to try to make things better? Anything would help!
I would call her & be really nice & ask if there is anything you can help her with. See if you can talk to her & maybe she'll open up & tell her that it is really good for the kids to be together. Maybe she feels like you are an enemy (if you haven't spoken to each other in a while). Reassure her that you are there for her. If on the other hand she does not return the kind words & is nasty then you have to MYOB. Either way just be nice. Drop it & when they do divorce, the Dad will have visitation & maybe on a Holiday the kids can play. That's life.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:06 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:14 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:16 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 12:17 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:18 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
BTW, You never know what's going on behind closed doors. If a relationship is failing they are both at fault. Her & her Husband. You don't live with him maybe he is causing her have low self esteem. You may only see the good side of him. She may have been able to think clearly when she went & saw her family & was away from him. Just a thought.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:19 PM on Feb. 23, 2013
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