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I need help big time

ok my daughter just turned 5 in jan. and she is just out of control. Now i have to say, she has never been spoiled and allowed to do whatever she wants, she has always had rules and always gotten time out or her butt spanked when she was bad. Lately its big time fits, im talking kicking screaming hitting, and she will kick and hit who ever gets in her way, whether it be her sister her step dad or me. She has always been "the good one" lol her sister was always the one that would throw fits (and nothing like this) just normal little girl fits ya know? but now hailey (the five year old) will scream like we are trying to kill her when she doesnt get her way!! we dont even have to be near her for her to scream like this, im surprised neighbors have not called the police! im at the end of my rope and ready to send her to live with her father (which would not be safe at all) but i seriously just dont know what else to do help please

 
mommie2twogirls

Asked by mommie2twogirls at 3:10 PM on Feb. 15, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • What kind of stressors does she have in her life? Is there anything new going on at home, at school, with step parents or at dads house? Has she had any major changes anywhere? I agree with clear expectations, rewards for acceptable behavior and consequences for unacceptable behavior. Talk to her. Ask her about what is going on. Perhaps she has seen this behavior from someone else.
    No matter what, do not give in to her wants. She will learn that she can get what she wants by acting that way. That would be the exact opposite of what you want. Good Luck.
    afdavis27

    Answer by afdavis27 at 12:02 AM on Feb. 16, 2009

  • there's no such thing as "normal little girl fits". a child's behavior should not ever escalate to screaming & having a fit like you describe. sit down with the girls &step dad. let them know the new game plan for your family, with ground rules about hitting, yelling, destruction of property... what behavior will not be tolerated. in addition to what behavior WILL be encouraged. they need to know, very clearly, what the consequences are for breaking the rules, & what the rewards are (gold stars?) for doing simple tasks like setting the table or getting ready for school with no fuss. don't buy them stuff as rewards, let them choose the movie the family will watch, or choose where they want to sit at dinner. tv & videos games are a treat. maybe they can't watch tv unless they've earned a certain number of stars. discipline is not punishment. discipline must be consistent to be effective. they'll know what to expect. good luck!
    vickiathome

    Answer by vickiathome at 3:23 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • she now says she acts this way because kids are bad (her exact words)
    mommie2twogirls

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 5:49 PM on Feb. 16, 2009

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