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Recently DH has been doing more of the picking DD up from school and she's been giving him a hard time about leaving. Crying and making a scene with no real excuse as to why. Like some days ago she made a scene, crying and such that he called me to try and talk to her to get her to come home. When she got home and I asked again what the problem was she said that dad made her take medicine (which happened early in the morning b4 school). Today she's upset that he wants to check her book bag and make sure she has everything and hasn't left anything in the class. She's 6 and these episode are happening more frequently. He's not one to make a big fuss in public or drag her out of school crying,, even though the school knows he's her father and she's not being kidnapped. Just her embarrassing behavior is becoming a big problem. I try and remind her of the rules of school behavior and what's expected but I'm not sure what were doing wrong. I expected this 4 years ago no now. What am I doing wrong??Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:10 PM on Feb. 25, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Does she have any special needs? Sometimes transitions or a change in their usual routine will cause undesirable behaviors.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:16 PM on Feb. 25, 2013
Answer by PandaGwen at 5:21 PM on Feb. 25, 2013
Answer by LeJane at 5:35 PM on Feb. 25, 2013
Answer by PandaGwen at 5:50 PM on Feb. 25, 2013
What am I doing wrong? In my opinion. You two are allowing it to happen. That is grounds for punishment to me.
Your DH does not have to say much to her when she acts like that. Just, "time to go home" Grab her hand tightly and start walking. If she falls out. Start dragging her. She will stand up. Or she will get dragged to the car. She want to embarrass you. Embarrass her.
Answer by louise2 at 6:15 PM on Feb. 25, 2013
Well change dragging to picking up and carrying.
You drag for a bit. Stop tell her to stand. Drag for a bit. Stop. Tell her to stand. Then when you get to the door. Pick her up and carry her to the car.
If the teachers can see that you are attempting to get her to stand. They will not do anything. What do you all do? Wait tell she decides to leave?
See, you are the parents not her. If you keep letting her make the choice. You will never be the parents. Teen years get worse.
Answer by louise2 at 6:51 PM on Feb. 25, 2013