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What would you do - call on this woman?

This girl (referred to as "J") who lives across the street has a 4th grade boy and 2nd grade girl. Her DH is ill in a nursing home and she's shacked up with DH's BF. J & DHBF are always either drunk or high & constantly M-F the kids. DHBF has been in jail for drugs and has shady looking people over all hrs. of the nite. The verbal abuse to the kids is horrendous and the kids are also "slaved" in that house. Get me a beer, shovel the walk, etc., etc. J is, IMO, a very unfit mother who only keeps the kids b/c she gets a fat check for each kid from SSI b/c of DH's illness. Would you call Child Services about the abusive talk & constant high state of the 2 adults in the house?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:20 PM on Feb. 15, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • how do you know for a fact that is going on?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:21 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • If you know for sure what is going on in that house yes DCF should be notified. If this is just hearsay I'd say do some of your own investigation to see for yourself but no child should be abused.
    mommatime78

    Answer by mommatime78 at 5:23 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • you already know the answer. call. then call again. then call again, until you see some response. if you can, go to their elementary school, speak with the principal in her office (for privacy) and ask her advice. perhaps she can intervene, and as mandated reporters, once the school has knowledge of this, they must legally report it to the authorities. good luck!
    vickiathome

    Answer by vickiathome at 5:25 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • It is being seen first-hand - especially during the nice weather. The "adults" (used loosely) fight with each other VIOLENTLY, then turn on the kids, sit in the yard and drink every single night, criminal records are public and hence, a few of us were able to find out WHY the sheriff's office came with a dog hunting him down. We see all sorts of "ill" things going on there. They also like to harass potential buyers of a home next to them that has been vacant for 2 years, thus scaring away the people.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:25 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • Yup...if you are sure. Sounds like you already know them or you wouldn't know so much about them. Child services can decide if they are unfit. If not, no harm really...maybe it would make them take better care anyway. Better safe than sorry.
    FlyMom07

    Answer by FlyMom07 at 5:29 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • I don't know. What youre saying doesnt really sound illegal. The smoking of course but you said they make the kids do chores and called it slavery. I'm not sure about that. They may be mean but it may not be abuse.
    MamaChamp

    Answer by MamaChamp at 5:30 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • YOU CAN ALWAYS DO IT ANONYMOUSLY, IF THERE IS NO REASON TO CALL NOTHING WILL HAPPEN. I WOULD CALL JUST IN CASE YOU ARE RIGHT.
    older

    Answer by older at 5:35 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • Yes I would. Of corse anonymously.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 6:00 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • Yes, for the sake of the kids.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:06 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

  • Yes. Please do. You'll be saving those children from a bad life.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:08 PM on Feb. 15, 2009

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