Hello Friends, we all know that one of the scariest things on the planet is losing our children - and today I come to you faced with that. I won't get too in depth with my story (because it's a long one) but my ex husband who has been fairly disengaged for the last 4 years has recently surprised me with a motion for custody with which I disagree. He has a lawyer and not only can I not afford a lawyer but Legal aid in my county is not accepting family court cases. I'm about to send a letter to the judge and our hearing is on Wednesday. My real question is, what really wins a case?
I have plenty of things to say, and evidence to provide... but I'm not sure what kinds of things will actually matter. He doesn't engage in any part of their life outside of visitation and he skips on that when it's convenient, he refuses to follow doctor's and/or therapists orders, he lies to me about our childrens care and his girlfriend (though she's met my children in a limited capacity 4 times) has more sway over his parenting choices than anyone else. It's complicated and dangerous because they have many special medical needs and they would rather not do what needs to be done so they are pushing for the authority to make ill informed self serving medical choices for the kids. I am scared half to death that his lawyer will shut me down.
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:03 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 8:09 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 8:13 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
You need to document everything. Get doctor records indicating the children's needs. Anything that shows you've been the primary person to take care of their medical care. Document when he doesn't come for visits and the reasons he gives. Don't come across as someone who isn't willing to work with your ex to develop a relationship with the kids, just provide the facts.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:16 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 8:18 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
Answer by Anonymous at 8:33 AM on Feb. 28, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:06 AM on Feb. 28, 2013