Ok to make a long story sorta shorter: I met my once best friend, we'll call her Jane, in high school and we were like sisters. Thats how she met my brother, they dated off and on throughout high school. I got married when I was 21 to a guy that Jane introduced to me we'll call him Bob; and after 4 years of marriage Bob confesses to me that he had sex with Jane numerous times during our marriage while Jane was dating my brother. (Note: Bob was in the military and actually used some of his leave time to see Jane, not me) Bob was unwilling to work it out with me through counseling, he thought I should just get over it because he "promised" he wouldn't do it anymore, so I asked for a divorce. Now, at the time that Bob confessed, it was 2 weeks AFTER my brother proposed to Jane. I was torn wether or not to tell my brother so I talked with Jane and she confessed to me that it was all true. I told her she needed to tell my brother and that if she didn't I would. Well, she didn't say anything so I did. Upon my brother hearing this he did the normal thing, he went and told her to tell him the truth. She DENIES IT! Even though everyone knows that I'm DIVORCING my husband over this, she denies it. But then my brother BELIEVES her and won't forgive me.
Now, fast forward about 4 years and I still don't have a great relationship with my brother but we get along as well as we can. My brother and Jane did get married so now I have her for a SIL. Awkward doesn't even begin to discribe it.
Finally, here's my question to you guys: I have found out that she is friends with and talks with my ex Bob on a regular basis on Facebook but hides it from my brother. Should I risk saying something again or do I leave it alone? I don't want to be a homewrecker but I also don't want Jane doing this to my brother.
I'm at a loss........ WWYD?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:37 PM on Mar. 1, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by wendythewriter at 5:52 PM on Mar. 1, 2013
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Answer by staciandababy at 6:20 PM on Mar. 1, 2013
I wouldn't talk to the SIL, she is dishonest anyway. I probably wouldn't tell, since they are already married. It's a dilemma, whatever you decide it's on her not you.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:24 PM on Mar. 1, 2013
Next question overall
Is your religion (belief system, moral philosophy, whatever) ever wrong?