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Scared to get a job?

Our 16 yr old was all excited about getting a job before he turned 16, and got his license.... Now, 6 months later, he has his license, reliable transport, good grades, etc etc... So we told him he needs to find something on the weekends, and maybe one evening a week. He's applied online, but acts like he's afraid to walk in the places to follow up on the jobs.
We want him to learn some responsibility outside of our home. He's a great help around the house, out in the shop with his Dad, etc, but we feel he needs some real world experience before he actually has to go out in it on his own in a couple yrs. He has plans for his future, but he still has 3 months of his Sophomore yr left, and then his Junior, and Senior yr left.... Also, he's not involved in sports, he's in FFA, he's all into his Jeep, and dirt bike, and in order for him to support those things, he needs a job.
Any advice Ladies? Thanks.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:45 PM on Mar. 3, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (12)
  • Maybe he should go sign up at the local employment office. Once they had his info, they could help him screen jobs, and give him the info to talk to someone who is hiring. The referals have the name of the company, who you should talk to, when is the best time to go, etc. Maybe being armed with that info will help him get over any jitters he has. Also he can talk to the school counselor. They should have info about jobs in the area where they want to hire teens. And a lot of them if they are govt sponsored (like OYCC), you have to get your application for summer work in now.
    Nimue930

    Answer by Nimue930 at 5:00 PM on Mar. 4, 2013

  • He might be afraid. You told him to get something on weekends - but his Jeep and dirt bike are weekend activities, I assume? So I would say he might be afraid that a weekend job might prevent him from enjoying those. Or is he shy or reserved? He might be uncomfortable being so forward and going into these places to try to follow up.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 2:48 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Ask him. It's scary the first time around. You might want to role play with him or tell him to practice talking about himself in front of a mirror. Or at least talk about the different questions he might be asked in an interview.
    silverthreads

    Answer by silverthreads at 3:24 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • good grief- he is just a sophomore, and finding jobs isn't easy

    I would let him concentrate on school a bit longer before pushing the job thing...

    I for one HATE everything that involves looking for work- so I totally understand that part- it's my idea of Hell!
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 3:00 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Job search is terrifying at that age. Talking to strange adults, explaining how great you are when you have no idea if you are good at working or not.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 3:27 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Going in and talking to someone for a job is scary even for adults who've done it many times. I'd be surprised if he wasn't scared on his first time out, because rejection is not a fun thing and it's generally the most common thing to happen.

    Sit down with him and make a plan. Applying online is a great start, but he needs to know that most of the jobs he's likely qualified for will never be posted online. And he may well find that going in to follow up in person doesn't help because a lot of companies are of the "don't call us we'll call you" mentality. So yeah, there will be rejection. But it takes knocking on a lot of doors.

    Are there any places you folks go to on a regular basis, where he might be able to make the jump from customer to employee? We have a diner near our home where we're regulars, and the owner has said he'll hire our son when he's old enough to work.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 5:51 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Could he do odd jobs? In the summer, he could mow the grass. He could do errands for other people or feed animals/pick up mail newspapers for people on vacation. Maybe he has a talent that he could turn into his own business. 

    JeremysMom

    Answer by JeremysMom at 6:00 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Walking in to places will get him a job easier than online will. Online is great once you have a resume with job skills and experience, but for the type of entry level position he's qualified for walking in will be a lot better. Restaurants, grocery stores, etc.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 6:26 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Maybe get the ball rolling by sending him in the direction of working around something he likes. FFA related work, or helping out at a place that sells automotive parts?
    tessiedawg

    Answer by tessiedawg at 9:58 PM on Mar. 3, 2013

  • Yeah, his Jeep and dirt bike are weekend fun for him, but we also live about 10 miles from the nearest off road park, and he goes out there after school, days off, snow days, etc so he has plenty of time to have fun ... We've told him that in order to keep them he has to help support them. As in maintenance, insurance, etc. I'm hoping when Summer gets here he finds something or he's going to be bored to tears because we won't support running around and having fun if he can't pay for the gas..... He earns tanks of gas right now with good grades, and thankfully he doesn't go to the off road park everyday because it's too expensive...
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:53 PM on Mar. 3, 2013