My son is 5 and started school this year. At the beginning of the school year he was great! Was the smartest kid in class, well behaved, well mannered, did all his work, etc. He's also always been very honest, whether it got himself in trouble or not, he would always tell the truth. Here recently his whole attitude has just changed. He no longer does his work in school, he'll just sit there and not do anything. He gets in trouble everyday for playing and not following directions. A few weeks ago he was written up and sent to the VP for pulling his pants down in class! When I talked to him about it, he told me that a couple of kids in his class told him to and said that if he didn't they wouldn't be his friends anymore. I explained to him that it's not appropriate and they're not good friends to have if they tell him to do things like that. He said he understood and apologized. At home he has gotten such an attitude and doesn't mind and is getting worse at school. Today when I took him to school the teacher told me that on Friday he was sent to the office again because he had looked up a girls dress in music!! I asked him why he would do that and why he didn't tell me and he says he doesn't remember doing that. I asked him how he couldn't remember and why did he think they sent him to the office and he says he didn't know and asked them why he had to go to the office and they didn't tell him. The little girl in question has been stopped several times from raising up her dresses and skirts and trying to get people to look. But Friday she told the teacher that my son looked and she didn't do anything. I'm lost!! I don't know what to do. I don't want to believe my son did this and kinda believe him when he says he doesn't remember doing it at all. The girl was never sent to the office before for pulling up her clothes and it was never written up so there is no record of it happening, But with him already being written up for pulling his pants down, I'm sure they're not going to be on the same page as me. I just don't know what to do!! It's just me. I have raised my son without his father since he was born and his father has never been a part of his life. I've tried to handle these things the best way I know how, but it's not working. He doesn't watch anything mature on tv and I have recently stopped him from watching anything but educational television if he gets tv at all. Why has he changed so much? Why is he not doing his work in school? Why is he acting out this way?? I just don't know!! I'm concerned that something is going on at school that he hasn't told me about and maybe that's what's making him do these things. I just want my son to be like he was. Any advice??
Answer by wendythewriter at 12:45 PM on Mar. 4, 2013
Every School has a Child Psychologist working there. I am absolutely NOT saying that there is anything wrong with your son at all. He's just exploring his new world. BUT he doesn't know the limitations of it. So, call the Psychologist & sit down with them or talk to them on the phone & voice your concerns just like you did here. They will give you pointers on how to handle his behavior & maybe even talk to him. That's what they are there for. He's only 5 & want's to be accepted. He sees other kids doing silly things & want's to try them too. It's innocent but not acceptable. he'll get through this stage eventually. GL & hang in there :)
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:05 PM on Mar. 4, 2013
Answer by NannyB. at 12:40 PM on Mar. 4, 2013