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I'm between being hurt and a little angry. My best friend (thought she was anyway) Emily, told me that I am not there for her as much as she thinks I should be, that she puts more into our friendship than I do and that if I want her to stick around I need to be a better friend to her.
I don't know what more she wants. She is there a lot for me, listens to me when I am upset but I thought that I was there for her as well. When she has problems with her bf I listen to her, sometimes for hours and try to give her encouragement. When she was upset that she got fired from her job because of a mistake that she made I told her over and over again that she did what she thought was right and not to worry that she will find another job. I did everything I could think of to boost her spirits. Today she told me that I am selfish and only care about my own issues and not hers and that I don't put as much into this friendship as she does. When I ask her if something is wrong she says no that she is fine but I guess she isn't really and it upsets her that I don't figure that out and really push the issue and get her to talk. She says she doesn't tell me things anymore because I already turn it around and make it about me. I honestly don't think I do that unless I say, I know how you feel because this happened to me etc...but I do that to show her that I do understand and I try not to derail the conversation. Times she has started asking about me and I tell her not to worry about it that I want to know what's going on with her. I don't know, I guess if I am that terrible of a friend then she doesn't need me in her life. I'm obviously not good enough for her. Sorry about the vent I just wanted to get an outside opinion and see if there is something that I am missing.
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Answer by gdiamante at 12:34 AM on Mar. 6, 2013
THAT's what I would say
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