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I have a daughter who just turned 21. She is a jr in college and a only child. She is doing okay in her major which is a very hard. My husband and I drink no alcohol. I have a long line of alcoholism on my side. My mom developed a problem in her mid 50's and I got the joy of taking care of her in all sorts of states and situations till she passed away 8 yrs ago. So I admit my distaste for drinking is over the top. My daughter started dating a boy her age last yr in college. He drinks alot and parties alot. She and I are pretty close and she never drank or went to many parties before meeting him. He gave her a card for their one yr anniversary a month ago that she left on the counter when she was visiting home. I looked at it and it talked about their nights of drinking and how blurry everything was to her. She now doesn't appear to do much with HER friends who were nondrinking and only does things with HIS group who all drink...alot. I have talked to her over the yrs and told her everything I know about the dangers of drinking. I talked to her again after seeing the card, but she lies and denies drinking. I realize at this age there is nothing I can really do about it. But, I was just wondering if any moms had any advice or thoughts they could share on how I can deal with this? I worry alot about her and admit I have lots of resentment towards this boyfriend.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:18 AM on Mar. 7, 2013 in Adult Children (18+)
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We did a lot of praying during our kids' college years. We had many discussions about drinking, but it is a time of experimenting for them and you are doing the best you can by having conversations with her about it. Always let her know you are there if she ever needs you for anything. Don't forget to talk about protective sex and drugs too. GL
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