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A guilty conscience can have a measurable physical effect on someone - stomach pains, headaches, insomnia, etc. It can also have emotional and mental impacts like increased anxiety or depression.
On one hand, a lot of religions advise that it's best to get things off your chest - Catholic confession, prayer, or rituals where you write down a problem and then dispose of it some way like lighting it on fire. On the other, a lot of times this guilt is due to the specific precepts of the religion, especially the ones that are more demanding or restrictive than the societal norms someone is surrounded with in the real world.
Is a religion healthy when it becomes so demanding, a follower becomes physically ill over not being able to live up to its expectations? Is that ultimately the fault of the religion, or the practitioner's inability to temper doctrine with common sense?
Answer by m-avi at 6:20 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 6:21 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
I don't believe so. My mother gloats in guilt...
Answer by m-avi at 6:29 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
Answer by Nimue930 at 6:30 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 6:35 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
Answer by skinnyslokita at 6:41 PM on Mar. 8, 2013
People have their own way of coping. Some people will have stomach pains and ulcers no matter what because they are just prone to worry. It's hard to say anyone thing causes it. Some get these same symptoms from going to school or work. I don't think the answer is to not go to school or work. Prayer or confession hardly compares to all the other stresses in life. Actually prayer and meditation are a great antidote to worry.
Confession is meant to be a introspective. If it's causing someone that much stress they could do group confession or they could work on their own using St. Ignatius spiritual exercises that emphasize contemplation. There are options, no one is promoting making yourself sick over prayer.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:20 PM on Mar. 8, 2013