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I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now... The first year was rough. We didnt see each other much cause I worked so much. Plus, I just gotten out of a relationship. Although I had been over my sons father.
Well. I talked to his ex girlfriend of 10 years about 4 months ago. She told me that my boyfriend use to try and get back with her all the time while he was with me. When she told me this, my heart dropped. So what was his plan? To drop me and crush me instead of telling me the truth. I understand it was rough for is, but trying to get with your ex behind my back , and lead me on is totally unacceptable .
Well. Since I've talked to her, him and I have gotten a lot closer. We hang out every single day. We don't argue much. And we're just always there for each other. I forgive him for what he's done, but sometimes it's always I the back of my mind. How do I know he's not just with me , to distract him from wanting her? I love this man and the thought of that makes my tummy turn. I get it, 12 years of knowing her, 1 year of knowing me. He isn't going to instantly drop her for me. But he's with me, not her. I don't think they talk at all anymore, cause he's always with me. I just feel like, eventually, he might go back...
My question is....
My heart is on the line , isn't it?
And I've talked to him about this numerous times. He claims he's over her, and I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. Am I just being paranoid? I also questioned why he talked to her ! His answer was... " I been with this go Most of my life"
Asked by Anonymous at 11:18 PM on Mar. 9, 2013 in General Parenting
So, in short you don't trust that he really wants to be with you?
Two red flags from your story about this man. First is that you don't seem to trust that he wants to be with you. Second is that he spent ten years dating someone. What's the story on that? Is he afraid of commitment?
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:24 PM on Mar. 9, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 11:26 PM on Mar. 9, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:50 AM on Mar. 10, 2013