I'm sick of making excuses for my problem and getting brow beaten by my family all the time. My house is always a mess and when my mom or other family come over they get frustrated and upset with me. My sister even said that if I don't get it cleaned up she is calling children services on me. I keep telling them that I am overwhelmed, stressed out, depressed, I use the fact that both my kids are on the spectrum and that it's harder to deal with them than typically developing children. I use my own health issues as an excuse and lately I think that I am wrong and that I am just a lazy slob. Other people have kids and don't have this kind of mess. I mean, I don't have trash in corners and bugs crawling around, but toys are always scattered everywhere and trying to get the kids to clean them up is next to impossible. I have baskets of clothes that need to put away. The kids do throw juice containers and juice boxes on the floor and I usually tell them to clean that stuff up right away, same as when they spill food. But there are papers all over the floor (My son rips paper, mail, pictures, boxes, anything like that apart). I sweep them up, put them in the trash then vacuum and then he does it again. I can't stop this behavior but I should clean it up right away and not wait until the next day or evening to do it. I decided to start a self help program to change bad habits and hopefully get more motivated and stop being so lazy. I also want to get my kids to do as much as they can. When I think of all the things I need to do it doesn't seem so bad, but when I look at this mess I want to start crying and just run away. Does anyone have any advice on how to keep my place clean once I get it there? How to keep motivated and not get discouraged or tips on getting my kids to help more or make less of a mess. Honestly, if it was just me and not the kids my house would be clean so I know that I really need to find a way to get them to stop destroying things so much. The best I can do is let them play outside on good days. They don't seem to care about indoor activities and then get into mischief. They need to run and play and blow off steam, sitting and coloring or playing board games just makes them more restless and more likely to start tearing stuff up. Please someone help me before I rip all my hair out lol
It's a whole re-education!
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