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In the “No-Surprise-Here” category, Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar are going for baby No. 20 – or at the very least, they aren’t preventing it.
As TODAY Moms reports, “When asked whether they were actively trying to add another baby to their big brood, Jim Bob said, ‘We really consider each child a blessing from God.’”
And Michelle acknowledged, “I think that it will be a sad day for me whenever I know that we’re not able to have any more.”
In media-land, this kind of indirect answer is code for, “Go ahead and break out the headlines about the Duggars pulling out all the stops as they wholeheartedly go for number twenty!” And so we have.
If you had asked me my opinion last December, which is when Duggar announced that she had suffered a miscarriage, I probably would have said something like, “Good God. A 20th? As, in two groupings of 10? She has19! Close the damn shop!”
This is because I used to hate Michelle Duggar.
In my own defense, I did realize that my hatred was fear-based (maybe all hatred is.) “I look at Michelle Duggar – this woman who is my opposite in so many ways – and I see an aspect of myself that frustrates me, that I don’t understand, that I don’t want to understand,” I wrote. “You see, I want another baby, too. If I don’t judge her, I may start to relate to her — and then I’ll end up with 19 kids, too.”
(Were it not gauche, I would tell you whether or not I was ovulating – for the first time in nearly two years – when I wrote that post, which would have been the reason for my having cried big crybaby tears earlier that day, upon noticing that my own baby was clearly hurtling towards toddlerhood. But I’m not gauche.)
These days, my bizarre and unwanted lunges into baby-lust have, for the very most part, subsided. And just like that, I no longer hate Michelle Duggar. I know that her wanting a twentieth isn’t going to tip me over into craving a fourth. I’m safe.
In fact, if Michelle does end up delivering number one-fifth-of-100, I’ll be happy for her, in my selfish little way. Michelle is 45, maybe even 46 by now. And I’m….not. (Not until 2013 will I enter the mid-forties. Forty-four is early 40s, as you and I both know.) Were Duggar to have a baby, I would feel, by association, young. “Michelle Duggar is older than you,” I would tell myself. “And she has a newborn! Surely you can get off the couch and teach your 6-year-old to tie her shoes!” (Note to self: Do this.)
In other words, I may have finally accepted my old-mother-hen status (I have. I have!) But that doesn’t mean that if some other old mother hen temporarily transforms herself back into a spring chick, I won’t get a little spring in my cluck myself.
What do you think? Do you think she is being selfish?
I believe she is, she doesn't even raise her children, the older kids do. She is high risk and isn't thinking about leaving those 19 kids motherless if she decided to have a 20th child and things take a turn for the worse. There 19th child almost died being born at 20 weeks and their 20th pregnancy (or 21st considering her very first pregnancy) she lost.
I don't see how a family could handle so many children i can barley handle my two, lol.
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