I love my son to a ridiculous point and I have spent the last three and a half years trying to find a balance between spoiling and teaching good manners and respect. That said the last few months have been the worse so far. Everyday I get up and tell myself I will not yell today and then one hour, two new bruises from chasing my son, and three time-outs later I am yelling at my son as he runs through the house refusing to wear clothes or eat his eggs (which he specifically requested). There are days where I feel like all I say is no and I swear he spends at least 30 minutes in timeout before the day is through. At times, I want to backhand him so I end up in the bathroom, screaming into a towel with the vent on and the water running to drown it out. Please, other moms with sons (or daughters) this age, what did you do?
I know this a normal part of growing up. His world is growing and he's hearing no more and more and "no" is like love being taken away from him. I know that he is exerting his independence and self-reliance but how do we, as the parent, deal with that? I know all the reasons behind these behaviors but there's nothing to tell ME how to deal with MY response to these behaviors. HELP PLEASE!
**By the way, before anyone goes nuts, I do not "backhand" my child. Never have, never will. But that doesn't mean I don't understand the urge.
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Answer by 3libras at 4:31 PM on Mar. 13, 2013
Dr. James Dobson has some great parenting pointers in his books too. I think if you are consistent w/ your expectations, rules, etc. & offer rewards/punishments consistently, things will settle down. Kids need structure. For example, Breakfast is served at 8am. If his butt isn't in his chair, then whatever you fixed for his breakfast will be served at lunch time. Don't chase him, unless you are specifically playing a game outside that requires running after him. We don't run or play ball in the house. Sit down with him & talk to him about helping set up the rules & consequences. And as for rewards, praise, hugs, etc. ARE rewards. They don't need a new toy for doing what's expected of them every time. Hang in there mama. It will get better.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:49 PM on Mar. 13, 2013
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