My stepdaughter just left after staying at our house for four days so she could help her dad at his watch repair store. The visit was okay, if a little tense at times.
But my question has to do with her wearing a lot of perfume. I'm very sensitive to strong smells, especially synthetic ones, and her perfume was giving me headaches and kicking up my asthma. Not to emergency levels or anything, but enough to cause discomfort. I can still smell the perfume in the air, and it's been a half hour or a little more since she left. The scent is making my stomach queasy.
I wanted to ask my stepdaughter to lay off the perfume while she was here, but her dad thought that would have been rude. He said since I was making an effort to get along with her, which I've always made but which hasn't paid off too much except that she did finally come to visit, so that's a step in the right direction, I should just suck it up and not make waves. Her mom is also allergic to perfumes, so she doesn't wear them at home, but he said that was different because it was her mom. He said his daughter is only 21, and she'll grow more considerate as she gets older, and willing to see the world on adult terms, but for now I shouldn't make any demands of her.
What's done is done, but I'm wondering, what do you all think? Was my boyfriend right? Be nice, please.
Answer by gdiamante at 12:53 PM on Mar. 14, 2013
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Answer by m-avi at 12:14 PM on Mar. 14, 2013
OK, she's gone. Open all the windows for a few minutes & air the house out. You got through it & you are fine. I would not have said anything just to keep the peace for a few days. If she was staying for an extended period of time I would just say nicely that "I get an instant headache from perfume so please could you not apply it while your here. I get really bad debilitating migraines & I wouldn't ask you this otherwise, so thanks so much for listening". You handled it right for your Husband's sake & I am sure he appreciates you being so accommodating to her. If she doesn't feel threatened by you then I bet she'll be even nicer next time you get together.
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