I've been dating this amazing man for over 2yrs now. He has no kids, I have 3, we have none together and won't as I'm fixed. I'm 34, he's 30. We live in different cities and only see each other on the weekends. Every other weekend, I have my kids. My SO and I get along great and are very much in love. We have been talking about moving in together and getting married. The only reason we haven't is because he has a great job where he lives and my kids are in school here. He has agreed to wait til my daughter graduates from high school next yr, then I will move in with him. The problem is that I will still have my 2 boys every other weekend and he thinks it will be a problem based on their history. They have climbed out the window of their room (I live on the 1st floor), talk back to me, swear a lot, don't come home when they are supposed to, don't clean up after themselves and are generally disrespectful. I think their behavior has improved over the last 2 yrs but he disagrees.
Sunday night he sent me a message saying we needed to talk. This whole week we have talked about how unfair it is to him, how other people that have been dating less amount of time are getting married, and how he really wants to be with me but won't have my children misbehaving in his house.
I just don't know what to do. I really love him and I love my kids. Help.
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