i am in a rich area of the city
i am not rich at all
a got a wool coat from goodwill, it is warm, plaid- possibly ugly (will try to attach pic)
so two weeks ago, it is really cold, all the parents picking up their kids are cold
this woman, (do not know her last name, her child was in my child's class last year) says to me..
"you look freezing, you need a new coat"
i say " well, it is freezing out here, this is wool, i am just as cold as everyone else " ..paraphrased
she said " well, you need a down coat" i say "wool is warm, and i can not afford a new down coat, maybe when i see one at goodwill, but they go pretty fast"
she says "well, you can get one at Macy's, they are on sale now, i got this one from half off" blah blah etc
well, yesterday i go to pick up daughter, and she has a Macy's bag, i say "oh, did you go shopping, or is it boring stuff" parphrased, just making conversation.
she hands me the bag and says " here, this is a coat for you"...and it was?!
i tried to make light of it, i said you can not just buy me a coat. she said i had to have it. i joked back "you just do not like my goodwill coat, you think it is ugly, you can admit it" she says "it is dated" i continue to joke back about its ugliness. then say you are a small, i am a large, she was like " it is a large and people do nice things for each other and you can be thankful" ...or something like that. so i thanked her and gave her a little hug.
i get home, take coat out, and it is brand new! i feel weird about the whole thing, i really do not know her, i do not NEED a coat, not like mine was stolen or ruined/ripped when i fell down or something. just because i am not like the other moms, i know i stand out, i am ok with that
funny thing, 90% of the moms picking up and dropping off are all wearing dark black or charcoal down coats, it is like a f,ing uniform or something
she was not at drop off this am, thank goodness, i was wearing my old one, as i do not feel right accepting this, i do not like feeling like a charity case or something. and she was not happy when i tried to back off from accepting yesterday.
so i can try to return it to her, saying i can not accept a new coat from her, or i can go get a thank you card and little gift and give it to her with more thanks from me
i feel so weird...it is an odd situation, the woman is a bit off (i think she is bi polar, some days super over the top full of energy and other days, very bummed out, and she made quick mention about having anxiety issues, so there is something to my thoughts of bi polar. i do not want to hurt her feeling but i also do not want to have to thank this woman every time i see her and feel weird about it
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