My boyfrend's parents are in another state and having serious health problems. His sister called today and had a long conversation with him, telling him how miserable his dad is in the independent living place we helped him and the mom move into last Thanksgiving. The dad's memory is slipping a lot, plus he lost his driver's license, and the mom is having dementia issues as well. So their unhappiness is understandable, but there's not much anyone can do about it.
My boyfriend has just been terribly sad and depressed, really closer to heartbroken. He's had a lot of memories of how his parents used to be, sorrow over the way they are now, and regret that he hasn't lived near them since his young adulthood. There isn't a lot he can do from far away, but he couldn't do a whole lot more if he were closer, and moving really isn't an option at this point.
My parents are still healthy and active, and we aren't close anyway, so I haven't been through this yet. For those of you who have been there, what can I possibly say or do? I feel at such a loss. I hate to see my boyfriend hurt so much, but I have no idea how I can make it any better at all.
Answer by girlwithC at 11:43 AM on Mar. 18, 2013
Maybe he could just visit more often. Honestly being sad is okay as long as it doesn't last too long. He's grieving it takes time.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:53 PM on Mar. 16, 2013
Answer by PMSMom10 at 9:03 PM on Mar. 16, 2013
Answer by virginiamama71 at 9:38 PM on Mar. 16, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 9:14 PM on Mar. 16, 2013
Answer by jerseydiva at 9:47 PM on Mar. 16, 2013
Answer by girlwithC at 11:28 AM on Mar. 18, 2013
Answer by girlwithC at 11:37 AM on Mar. 18, 2013
Check out some of the top posts today in Groups: