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A friend asked a question: Don't know,how to answer.. Advice needed. (About an affair & birth certificate.) adult content

If your married & have an affair,become pregnant.. Does your,husband automatically get added on the birth certificate or is it,whoever you tell the hospital is the babies father?
What is the correct legal steps,in a situation like this?.. since,she wants to do what is best..She knows,she made a mistake but now it's about the baby.
Thank you,for helping.. I was at a loss,on what information to provide her.
Please only constructive advice & no bashing,thank you.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Mar. 16, 2013 in General Parenting

Answers (23)
  • Thank you,for the advice ladies..
    Like i told her,although I don't agree what went on.. It is,what it is.
    So,now it's finding out what is best for this child to have the best future possible.
    I feel just because she is married does not mean,the baby should get his last name since that is not fair to this man either.
    Everyone,is being civil but no matter what someone will be hurt & just hoping in the end damages can be next to none.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:16 PM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • In my opinion, I would want the child to have the same last name as the rest of the family. I would list the husband as the father. If they are all being civil, can they draw up an agreement for support and visitation so the father can still be activly involved? It sounds like they should be able to work something out if they have made it though everything thus far.
    khedy

    Answer by khedy at 6:21 PM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • staci that is not true.. if your married they will not allow you to put another mans name on there unless a dna test proves the other man is the father. if she doesnt get a dna test then her choices are her husband or not putting a dad on there.

    See that is the part I feel may vary state by state. who *can* be put on the certificate or if the space can be left blank if you are married... I can see how the 'rules' involved could differ quite a bit.
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 1:08 PM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • staci that is not true.. if your married they will not allow you to put another mans name on there unless a dna test proves the other man is the father. if she doesnt get a dna test then her choices are her husband or not putting a dad on there.
    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 9:12 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • Tell her to leave it blank.
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 8:48 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • No one automatically gets put on the birth certificate, the mom has to put who ever the dad is on there. My sister was separated with her husband for years and get pregnant by another man. they wouldnt allow the bio father to be put on there bc she was married to the other man. they told her the only way the dad could be put on there is if they do a dna just bc she was married to someone else. Also if she doesnt want the affair man to be on there and wants the husband to claim the child she doesnt have to do a dna bc she is married and she can put him on there no matter who the kid belongs to.

    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 8:27 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • You fill out the paperwork at the hospital. You can put whoever you want.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 7:20 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • Most states if you are married. The DH goes on the BC.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 7:03 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • If the father's name is left off the certificate intentionally, it won't matter still because only biological paternity is what is listed on a birth certificate, not legal custody. Those are two separate matters. You would have to file papers to add the name or change the birth certificate, so knowing paternity doesn't automatically change the certificate either.
    hellokittykat

    Answer by hellokittykat at 5:07 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

  • Biological father would most likely be printed on the certificate. The birth certificate isn't mean to address custody, only biological information. This doesn't mean that both can't be fathers. However, that is a separate legal issue. It won't change the birth certificate. It's the same as if the biological father walked out and the step-dad steps up to be the father. The biological father is still listed on the birth certificate no matter what even if another person is the father legally. I would recommend that all people involved get mediation to draw up a custodial and responsibilities agreement.
    hellokittykat

    Answer by hellokittykat at 5:03 AM on Mar. 17, 2013

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