I recentely told my husband that he has yet to know the 'real' me. I have held back for 3 years because he is very conservative. I have wanted to completely go out of the norm in our sex life. He does not give me much attention. He never wants to have sex with me and when he does he will say things like, "Im too tired to get on top of you" which is a huge mood killer. You shouldnt have to beg your husband to have sex with you. But he does work a LOT of hours. I began to get sexually frustrated. Ive always been a kinky kind of girl. With past relationships i was always into different things but that stopped when i met my husband because he was not like that. Well i decided that it was either i give in to the overwhelming temptations to cheat on him, or i do the right thing by trying to talk to him again. So i did exactly that. I told my husband the things i had done in the past and the different things i want to do in our marriage. Here are a few things and the reason i am posting this is im startin to get a lil nervous that maybe im crazy for wantin to do these things or maybe if i did these things it would effect my marriage. Our marriage is so pure right now.. he has never cheated on me, watched porn, looked at magazines of women to make me insecure he is very faithful and committed to me.... but this is what i want...
I want us to really change things up. I want to go to strip clubs with him. I want him to look at other women so that it will get his blood goin to where he will want me. I want to go to a hotel room and have sex with him next to another couple having sex. NO touching anyone other than our spouse, but having sex next to one another. I want to drive somewhere and have sex in our truck. I want to do it all! I love my kids so much but life has really just gotten boring between him and I as far as our relationship together because its the same thing every single day. Work, take care of the kiddos and no sex life or relationship between us. I want to do all kinds of stuff while we are still young and can do it! I dont want to feel like i have wasted my life not being who i want to be because my husband doesnt want me like i want him. I need a change and this is it. But i am terrified that the thought is more exciting then the actual action of doing it. Im afraid i may get jealous of my husband looking at another women. I have had two children so my skin is not the best looking and im afraid that he will compare me and he will be gettin off to someone else other than me. But thats kind of the point of it all too... lol! Im confused as to why i have these fantasies and why i want to pursue them so badly lol
Anyone understand?? Advice?? Do i just need counseling?? lol!
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