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Do any other mommies have this problem?

My 16 year old daughter has seemed to develop a liking for kicking and kneeing older boys and even guys in the balls? Do any other mommies have this and or have had this problem?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:48 AM on Feb. 16, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • For no reason?

    Or because they need it?

    Answer by Wimsey at 11:49 AM on Feb. 16, 2009

  • I knew some girls like this in high school. She just needs to be taught how damaging that can be for guys. She needs to know that physical play and flirting shouldn't cause excruciating and lasting pain. AND she needs to know to be careful, because if she is "playing" in this manner, one of those guys one day might "play" right back, and that wouldn't be okay at all if she ended up getting hurt. Tell her that for guys, getting hurt down there can hurt so bad that they become sick to their stomachs. It's a good target for self-defense, but that's the only time it's okay to attack there.

    Answer by laadeedah at 1:21 PM on Feb. 16, 2009

  • Well I have a teen boy and have taught him to NEVER hit girls, but if he said he hit a girl because she kicked or kneed him in the balls I would NOT be mad! That is only okay in self defense and your daughter needs to learn that before some boys mom tries to press charges for it.Have you told her that could cause permanent damage?!

    Answer by goaliemom93 at 5:31 PM on Feb. 16, 2009

  • I'd be talking to her about personal space and that some may not be gentlemen about kicking the jewels. When one knocks her teeth out she might realize that she's committed an assault and ppl do have the right to defend themselves from assaults.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:13 PM on Feb. 16, 2009

  • It should only be used for self defense. If she continues, someone may do it to her which could involve damage to her too. She could be charged with misdemeanors or felonies depending on your state. Ask her the same question you would ask a 5 year old. Do want someone to do that to you? Good Luck.

    Answer by fragglemom at 6:24 AM on Feb. 17, 2009

  • She's 16 and doing this repeatedly? that's a huge problem. one of these days she's going to do that to some boy and he's going to hit her back - that boy may not even get in trouble because that's self-defense. if its been for protection then that's one thing - but if she just thinks its funny then you need to seek help for her because she is showing some very violent behavior.

    Answer by WinnieM at 11:45 AM on Feb. 17, 2009

  • You need to teach your daughter that this devastating assault tactic should ONLY be used if she is fighting for her life!! It is NOT funny at all, (I have both sons AND daughters) can cause a young man not only to be "sick to his stomach" but inablity to have children in the future! As a previous replier stated, she needs to be taught about "personal space" and this talk is LONG OVERDUE. She needs to be taught that this kind of "play" is not appropriate, and she might not like it when the rules of the game include the young man swatting her in the face in self--defense, as a reflex action.

    Answer by Aprilmorgans at 4:59 AM on Feb. 18, 2009

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