I know I asked 4 it but here it goes.My dh & I r having problems.He believes he knows everything, the computer goes over me & sometimes the baby.He shows no affection & we have talked about divorce 4 awhile. My neighbor showed major interest in me.His wife is crazy..she beats the kids, she can not handle anything, she miss treats him, she has multiple personalties & bipolar. I really wasn't interested. But, when he kissed me one night, I felt right.So we started "seeing" each other.More a less we would kiss & we talked.Which was the best, he would come over just to hold my hand and watch tv. He told me he loved me, which catch me by surprise.I told him I cared, but I wasn't ready for that & I wasn't ready for sex.Though I went down south for him twice.He wanted for me, but I wouldn't let him.Now she is on her manic side, I haven't seen him in that way,what do I do? I feel hurt and used....but can't stop thinking about him.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:54 AM on Feb. 16, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by MommyAddie at 12:23 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 AM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:02 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by nwdeserangel at 12:11 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
For one, you committed adultery in your marriage. You betrayed another women by "going south on him", which IS having sex. It is one of the most intimate acts of sex. Kissing him, holding hands with him, giving yourself emotionally to another man is CHEATING!! Secondly, would you be alright with your husband doing what you are doing? Thirdly, DIVORCE. You betrayed your marriage vows. You can justify it all you want, his wife is a loon, you and your hubby were having problems....yada yada, call it what it is.....cheating! Lastly, you reap what you sow, what goes around comes around. You are knowingly hurting another woman, your husband and your children. It's selfish and heartless, imho.
Answer by blessed5x at 12:13 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by jareda69 at 12:31 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by Buffie95 at 12:35 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by rgie_wermager at 1:37 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 1:58 PM on Feb. 16, 2009
How do you move forward. First off, you should really consider counseling for yourself. Also, it may be wise to talk to your husband and try to repair your marriage. And until you are in a better place, emotionally, (whether that be divorced or have repaired your marriage) you should stay away from the man you had the affair with. That's a start. I'm sure there are other women that have more helpful advice.
Answer by nwdeserangel at 2:13 PM on Feb. 16, 2009