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Would you date someone who smoked pot, once in a "blue moon"?

One of my dear friends is 45, she was married once about 20 years ago, and in that time, has become a serial dater, LOL! Well we met the latest boyfriend, and I have to say, she has never dated anyone this great, she is crazy about him, but found out that he smokes pot once in a very great while. He has a lake house, and about 2 times a year has a party, well she found out that on those occasions he smokes pot? To me it isn't a big deal, but she is gearing up to have the big confrontation with him! I said that 2 x's a year hardly is drug abuse, and would most likely not have this big blow out! What do you all think?


Asked by jerseydiva at 7:22 PM on Mar. 19, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (25)
  • I would probably let it go. He hardly sounds like he's ruining his life over it; to me, it's not much different than responsible drinking.

    Answer by Ballad at 7:29 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • i was going to say, i would never date a man who smokes pot
    after you describe him... 2 times a year at his lake home... not such a big deal
    if she is super crazy about him and this is the only issue... i would not make a deal out of it (IF only two times a year)

    if he dumps her...can i have him??
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    Answer by fiatpax at 7:32 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • Probably. If that were the ONLY "issue" which in my experience, it's usually not.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 7:25 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • Probably not. Unless there was a real medical reason.

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:26 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • Yes, I would. Pot is no big deal to me at all. Excessive drinking would be way more of an issue in my world

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 7:29 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • I don't have any problem with any adult person smoking pot once in a while, just like I don't have any problem with any adult drinking alcohol once in a while, it should be made legal because in retrospect alcohol is legal and it causes a hell of a lot more physical and emotional problems than weed ever has.......

    Answer by older at 7:50 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • Yes at 45.

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 7:23 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • BTW, if she has a big confrontation about this, tell her not to be surprised if he dumps her. He sounds like an established man who can make adult choices.


    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 7:25 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • My husband smokes regularly.. I don't have any problem with it.

    Answer by anestheticsex at 7:28 PM on Mar. 19, 2013

  • Twice a year? Nah, it wouldn't be that big a deal, but as a general rule, I don't want to be with anyone who smokes anything. Twice a year smoking pot wouldn't bother me like someone who smokes regular cigarettes every day.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 7:28 PM on Mar. 19, 2013