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I'm my daughters primary babysitter. we looked on sittercity and care .com for a backup babysitter . we found one then the night before i was suppose to leave on a trip she cancels out . she said her husband had to get a tire for his motorcycle. its a two day project.
where should we go now to find a babysitter for the backup babysitter. i really bummed so is my daughter. i really need a break as my daughter and grandsons live with me and was so looking forward to this trip.
was going up with two friends to see our favorite rock star and have a ladies vacation.
oh well. btw when did i have these kids.

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Asked by carolina54 at 1:03 AM on Mar. 20, 2013 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • I think its awfully kind of you to go to such lengths to help your daughter out but I do not think you should have cancelled your trip. If theyare HER kids it is HER responsibility to find child care, not yours. I understand her plan cancelled nlast minute, but still not your responsibility to cancel your plans.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 1:14 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • You lost me at "I'm my daughters primary babysitter". You are her parent, you can't babysit her.

    Answer by Crafty26 at 1:15 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • Dear Lord, you have asked this same question over and over and over.......

    How many times and ways do you need to be told, YOU'RE THE PARENT! They will figure it out!
    Can we say "ENABLER "

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 1:44 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • after reading your other questions- time for her to grow up a bit. tell her to take time off and care for her own kids. you deserve a break. you have gone above and beyond...

    Answer by feralxat at 1:47 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • Aw, I'm sorry. I was hoping you'd get to go on that trip when you posted about it before. Even so, I'd tell your daughter to keep looking for a backup sitter because you can't put your life on hold indefinitely for her children.

    Answer by Ballad at 1:54 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • im a bit confused, Im thinking your saying you are your grandson's main babysitter? is that right? If so it should be your daughters responsibility to get herself another babysitter, not yours, and you should still go on your trip, she will figure it out, she would have to if you werent there

    Answer by Princess_s21 at 2:03 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • I would have went on my trip, your Daughter needs to figure it out

    Answer by funlovinlady at 7:39 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • Did your mom babysit your kids and cancel her plans to help you out? I'm trying to understand why you feel so obligated to do this for your daughter.

    I rely on my parents to watch my kids when I need a sitter, but I also am fully aware that they have the right to say no. And I know that if they say no, it's not their job to figure out another solution - it's mine. These are her kids, she needs to take the responsibility of figuring out what to do while you are gone on your trip. You gave her plenty of notice (I assume you didn't spring it on her the day before you were leaving, from the way you talk), so this is on her. You need to go on your trip, and whatever happens, happens. It's her problem, not yours.

    It's great you want to help her, but at this point, you're not helping anymore. You're helping her to not have to take responsibility for her own kids. That's not helping, Mom. That's hurting.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 8:26 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • As I said before just GO! She is an adult and she needs to figure this out herself.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:22 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • Seekingsitters is a good service. Not too difficult for your DD to make arrangements for her own kids. Have fun on your trip.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:24 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

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