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Well, I can move on but sometimes I call my child's father for him to know that she is getting bigger and doing real good. That all, but I can't make him do anything. I'm hearing that he doesn't claim his daughter but he claim his two sons that he had right after our child. He wont get his daughter but calls every three months???I moved on and be like

he steady calls me every 3 months and for what....I ask " are you coming to get your daughter"  and the conversation leads somewhere else except the focus on your child.  SO i be thinking "why does he keep calling if he doesn't want to be around"   JUST MOVE ON , I  CAN.   my child and I are doing fine , he still keeps on calling.  I don't know.  he has a lot of whatever built inside of him and he needs to move on.    Ok. so he doesn't want to get his daughter but he gets his sons more, Oh well, Moving on.  I don't know what is wrong with him.  I turn my phone off just so he wont call me every three months?????????   I don't know, what could his problem be.  He pays child support and that is it.   If I do call him , which i should if it involving our child then he get her.  But just calls me every 3 months and don't get her. ????   When he calls he is mad and cussing and I'm just CHILLIN AND COOL AND CALM. 

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Asked by meme0926 at 10:51 AM on Mar. 20, 2013 in Parenting Debate

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  • I'm sorry...

    I do not understand...

    "He be like" is not anywhere in my vocabulary.

    Answer by m-avi at 10:57 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • So, why do you care? Why would you want that type of person in your life? Better yet, why are you even wasting your precious time thinking about it? You are now a single person, get a job, get daycare or a babysitter, go get a career.... screw him over by becoming a great human being with a career that can support your whole family.... Show him you are better than he is.

    Answer by m-avi at 11:09 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • um okay?????

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 10:52 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • It sucks but you can't force someone to care or be involved in a child's life.

    If he wants to know about his kid, he needs to call himself.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 10:59 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • Sorry, just read what you added to your original question / vent. No, don't turn off your phone. Don't bother asking if he will pick up his child for a visit. Would you really want a virtual stranger to come and pick your child up to take her away from you (even for a couple hours)? It won't be good for her. You can't trust him to show up, so why trust him to spend time with your child? If he were interested in being part of her life he would make the effort. You obviously care because you are venting about it here. I don't blame you, I am sure it hurts that he doesn't want to spend time with his child. You are her advocate so I am sure this bothers you more than it does her. At this point, it sounds like she is better off not spending time with him.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 11:12 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • make that 15. I didn't see the 2nd page. Why do you need to keep telling yourself you moved on?

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:31 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • No need to cap lock yell at us. Just don't answer his calls if it bothers you that much. What exactly is your question or debate?

    Answer by QuinnMae at 11:08 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • I swear you said move on/moving on like 10 times in your short story. Who cares what he thinks.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:31 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • What the hell did I just read?

    You are NOT over him. If you were you would not, at all, be bothered by his actions with/without his children.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 11:31 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

  • So what is your question? It sounds like he's kind of a douche. Does he pay child support?

    Answer by QuinnMae at 10:53 AM on Mar. 20, 2013

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