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My kids are driving me to tears please read and send good vibes! adult content

they are both screaming bloody murder for me taking a chip away that her dad gave her just so she dnt choke on and she always has to throw fucking nasty fits and still after i have done everything as calmly as i can shes still screaming bloody murder what do i do????? shes 13 months what the hell do i do?


Asked by Anonymous at 9:12 PM on Mar. 22, 2013 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • So when you stay close & stay accepting, acknowledging her feelings & how upsetting what happened was, you're doing two important things.

    You're responding with acceptance rather than resistance (so you're facilitating or supporting her necessary emotional process: helping her have her feelings & get through them, without giving her a lot to struggle against or resist.)


    You're modeling the more mature or more acceptable type of emotional expression that you eventually hope to hear from her! She is more likely to be ABLE to say, eventually, "I'm so sad; I was enjoying that. I didn't want you to take it away!" (or the equivalent, about the current conflict) if she GOT that kind of acknowledgment for her upsets from the beginning. She will be more able to "find" her tears & sadness (instead of her fury) if you were able to tolerate & accept her anger. (Rather than being more defensive & less open to her vulnerability.)

    Answer by girlwithC at 12:57 AM on Mar. 23, 2013

  • Put her n her bed/crib.

    Answer by louise2 at 9:18 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • ur kid cant eat a chip at 13 months? really?

    Answer by chrstny88 at 9:14 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • she chokes reLly easily she even chokes when drinking a bottle she was born at 31 weeks and has always had a problem with chocking and gagging realy easy

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:16 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • well thats not good.. did you trade the chip for something else she likes?

    Answer by chrstny88 at 9:18 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • BOTH?
    how old is the other one?

    Answer by feralxat at 9:49 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • First, take a dep breath and count to ten. Try to distract her with something such as a toy. If you have to, put her in a safe place like he bed and walk away so you don't lose your cool.

    Answer by Ballad at 9:50 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • Make her father deal with it. And stop buying chips. If your DH brings them home then just throw them away.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 10:05 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • Let her freak out. Put her in a safe place and let her cry. Offer her a different snack and if she freaks out, let her cry.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 10:55 PM on Mar. 22, 2013

  • TO BED!!

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 11:11 PM on Mar. 22, 2013