Okay ladies, just out of curiosity, I am wondering what should my next step be.
I'm 32, married, 3kids. I, at one point, wouldn't have minded a big family. But, with the economy, the stress my husband already endures being the sole bread-winner, not to mention lack of space, lack of money and a host of other things, I realize we simply CAN NOT afford another child.
Why am I saying this, good question!
Okay, well, normally, my cycle was coming (give or take for the last 3+ months or so) pretty regularly. Before that, they were pretty spaced out and just crazy because I had my third child in Jan. of 2011. I nursed her from pretty much that point up to just recently...like say, Jan./Feb. of this year. She's, of course, 2 now, so I've pretty much been bfing for 2yrs give or take a couple days/weeks.
I was, at one point, on the 'ring', but some crazy crap about me having to pay for it came up in either last Nov. or Dec. maybe even this past Jan. where I didn't get it. I didn't have the money and I was told that I didn't have to pay for it because of my dual insurance. I tried to run it under my secondary insurance, by that wasn't flying either. So, hubby and I have been using the pull-out method. Well, recently, like say late Feb. after my last period, early March, we did the do, and I it got so good that I felt like tempting fate and didn't let him pull out. But I made sure that I took a pregnancy test a week or so after that and I've been checking every since then. All seemed well, until March 14th came...and nothing. Okay, no need to panic, so I figured that it would be like the 15th maybe even the 16th....but nope, nothing still. So, I sat around and waited...and I didn't get anything but very VERY light spotting, like a pinkish tint on tissue and then brownish tint and then 'something' on the sanitary napkin. I was like, 'hmm, okay, what's going on here?' But then PRAISE BE TO GOD, it came finally Friday the 22nd and Saturday with cramps and all. Now, normally, it would stay like about 6 or 7 days from the time of full start until there's nothing less to come out...but it's only Monday going into Tuesday...and I'm already very light.
So, to recap:
I, for the last few months, have had a consistent period coming around the 14th...staying for 6 or 7 days start to finish...but recently, it decided to 'lightly tint-spot' for a 2-3 day after the 14, then finally it came, but seems to be over a little quicker than I'm used to. The pregnancy test I took a couple of weeks or so ago said negative....so what do I do? Do I just be happy, or question it? Is it possible that since I'm trying to get my youngest off breast, and she hasn't gotten anything out of the boobies for the last few days or so, that my no longer nursing boobs are causing me to have a crazy period? I can't afford a test, but I wil do what I have to. I've had anywhere between 2 to 4 miscarriages, 2 very preemie babies, a third that was just at 37wks and needed surgery at one month of age...I'm so very scared to go through all of this again. I am so scared. I personally would prefer a permanent procedure because I develop either pregnancy induced hypertension or pregnancy induced diabetes when I'm prego, but nothing too much one the baby is delivered...and it's because of me that the babies have had to come early.
What would you do? Have you been though this? What's the deal?!
Answer by missanc at 5:51 AM on Mar. 26, 2013
What would I do? I would take another test in the morning now and go with that result. Stopping the breastfeeding can change your cycle (as you already know) and since you just stopped a couple months ago I would let your body get used to it's cycle before freaking out. In the mean time, perhaps an IUD would be a good option since it's a one time thing and you don't have to think about it.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:12 AM on Mar. 26, 2013
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Answer by HappyEndings at 2:27 PM on Mar. 26, 2013
Answer by HappyEndings at 11:43 AM on Mar. 27, 2013
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