My son was raised to be responsible, caring, respectable and honest. He had regular house chores, went to church and had a curfew. He wasn't spoiled but had what he needed, taught right from wrong and encouraged to join the military when he got out of school as we wanted him to have a chance in life and put distance between the so-called friends he managed to make.
Having said all of this, it's important to also tell you that I too served in the military, and I became a Corrections Officer several years ago. Now do you see my dilemma? My son will most assuredly spend time in prison. You can't be present during a murder, leave the scene, NOT report it, get picked up AND indicted 10 months later and think you'll be free. How do I separate my feelings & thoughts of my son from what I see and deal with on a daily basis when I'm at work? Yes, I treat inmates with respect, I'm firm as well as fair, but I'm not blind to what really goes on when they think no one can see. Some are truly trying to change and start over but more times than not they are full of it. How do I not analyze everything my son says? Many find God, or so they tell me, while locked up but they seem to leave him behind when they walk out the door and go home. Do I think my son should be in prison if he had something to do with someone's death? My answer is yes. He had chances to go to the police and explain what happened, he could have come to me and I would have gone with him if he was afraid. I think about what his silence during the last 10 months says to me...SMDH!
What do you think?
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 1:02 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 1:02 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
I was my kids music teacher in elementary school. I found I had higher expectations of my kids than the other students, I knew what they were capable of, and i was probably harder on them. I think this might be what you are experiencing. I suggest you think, is this how I would treat someone who was not my son? Would I be giving him more of a second chance if he was a stranger?
Answer by musicmaker at 1:03 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 1:27 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
Answer by jeanclaudia at 1:54 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
Answer by hellokittykat at 2:30 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 8:47 AM on Apr. 1, 2013
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