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When should I say something?

I recently got a new job and my first day is April 15. Last week, I found out I am unexpectedly expecting. When should I say something to my new employer? Should I let them know before I start or do I wait a couple of weeks? I don't want to seem like I am trying to pull a fast one on the new job, but I don't want to give them a reason to change their minds about hiring me. Any advice?

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hootie826

Asked by hootie826 at 11:43 AM on Apr. 1, 2013 in Money & Work

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  • I would not say anything. We have hired people at my job, than months later when they start showing we know they are pregnant.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 11:55 AM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • CONGRATS! I would say anything to them.
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:59 AM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • It is pretty common to wait until your 2nd trimester. Since the majority of miscarriages happen during the 1st, many prefer not to have to share that sad news with people they don't know well at work.
    anng.atlanta

    Answer by anng.atlanta at 12:01 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • i would wait a while
    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 12:05 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • WOULDN'T***
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 12:09 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • I'd wait until after the 1st ultrasound
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 12:17 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • When I got pregnant with my oldest, I'd already been at my job for about 6 months (well, when I found out). I waited until I was into my second trimester before I said anything. So I would definitely wait at least that long at a brand new job. You have no real obligation to tell them right now anyway. Wait until you're settled into the job, know what you're doing, know it's going to stick, and then in your second trimester, you can tell them.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 12:19 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • I would wait until you are farther along and possibly not untill you are showing UNLESS the job you are taking could endager your baby or being pregnant for some reason would make you do a poor job. Most jobs you can do while you are pregnant with little problems.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 4:06 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

  • I'd wait til the end of the first trimester, at least.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 5:36 PM on Apr. 1, 2013

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