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I need a virtual hug

I hate April.
I lost my baby daughter on 4-13-00,and every year at this time,I get so sad
Every year I'll see little girls that are the age she would have been,and it breaks my heart.
She would have been a teen this year. It's so hard for me to imagine
If I talk to my mom about it,she'll say "Are you STILL depressed about that?!"
As time has gone on,I've dealt with it better and better,but as that date comes,I get sad
On that day,I take out the box with her death certificate,and the cards I received,and I look at it all.
Having your child pass before she even enters the world is so heartbreaking
I was 34 weeks along.


Asked by butterflyblue19 at 1:07 PM on Apr. 3, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (32)
  • You totally deserve a virtual hug and lots of IRL hugs, and I'm sure your husband will give you some.

    I'm sorry your mom responds that way.
    No, you're not "STILL depressed" about that, you just have authentic feelings that come up because of your experience of loss.

    I was feeling so sad today about something undermining that happened to me in college & really affected me in ways I didn't exactly understand and couldn't respond to optimally (so that I'm only healing now, which is part of what hurts) and the grief I felt about it was real. And that does NOT compare at all to the kind of loss you experienced! I am saying this to say that you have a right to all your feelings.

    Having it be hard to imagine your daughter turning 13 "if only" is a big thing to sit with. I'm sorry your mom can't quite manage it, but I'm glad you came here.

    Answer by girlwithC at 5:44 PM on Apr. 4, 2013

  • Hugggs


    Answer by Izsarejman at 1:25 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

  • LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 1:10 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

  • im sorryhugs


    You never get over losing a child. When you lose a child you lose a piece of your heart that can never be replaced. 


    Answer by LostSoul88 at 1:12 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

  • hugsI'm sorry momma, it's hard :(


    Answer by funlovinlady at 1:14 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

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    I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss

    Answer by older at 1:15 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

  • older

    Answer by older at 1:16 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

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    I figured the more hugs the better!

    Answer by older at 1:21 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

  • hugs


    Answer by saphire_eyes802 at 1:46 PM on Apr. 3, 2013


    Answer by DJDNY at 1:24 PM on Apr. 3, 2013

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