I have been with my DH for 7 years now. We have gone through some good times and some bad times like anyone else. My problem is that he is just so undependable. He says that he will wash dishes and 2 days later, they are still there. He says that he will take out the trash, but yet it is piling up in the garage. Despite all this, he still has time to play computer games, or go to a friend's house. I have been working at focusing on my own issues, not nagging, criticizing etc. But the things he does or doesn't do infuriate me. The second I mention it, it feels like all my progress is derailed. I just don't know how to find the balance between flying into a rage and getting hiim to do what he needs to do. He does act repentant about it, but I never know if he is going to do what he says he will or not. Has anyone dealth with something similar? Can you give me any advice?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:03 AM on Apr. 4, 2013 in Relationships
NOT the same as a submissive wife which puts her man above herself. it just means YOU decide to not fight/ argue/nag etc.
i.e. you ask him to take out the trash. he doesn't, you do. he asks "why did you do it, i said i would do it". you say," but you didnt"
he realizes you asked him for help and he failed. he is less likely to repeat the same mistake in the future because failing the woman he loves is soul crushing.
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