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Yesterday, my 11 y/o dau had 14 inches of her hair cut off to make a donation. It was down to her waist & is now just below her shoulders. I think it looks adorable & we even played around with some different ways for her to wear it. Well, she's been having these big pangs of doubt about the big change. I've tried to comfort her & tell her how beautiful she is & that she will get used to it. I told her the length of her hair does not determine her self worth, or define her beauty. Plus, hair grows & she can have it long again. My worry is that when she gets back to school & someone says the wrong thing like "why did you cut your pretty long hair?" I got that comment from grown women when I had 11 inches cut off last year. (Some people don't think. ) I want her to feel good & confident before she faces everyone at school on Monday, so I don't have to worry about any more meltdowns. Any suggestions?
Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:56 AM on Apr. 4, 2013
I don't know what you can say to make her feel better. Maybe have hear read some stories about the foundation that she donated her hair to. Perspective is everything. Maybe she needs a little grieving time (LOL - I know what it's like) and then she will get past it. Eventually you just have to accept that things are the way they are and no amount of wishing it different helps.
If she is an accessory girl, maybe go look for some fun clips or head bands.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:13 AM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by missanc at 11:01 AM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by tessiedawg at 11:02 AM on Apr. 4, 2013
I don't really know what to tell her. Maybe share with her MY post when I cut 14 inches of my hair: http://www.cafemom.com/answers/1317724/Do_you_like_it
It's been 2 months since I cut my hair. I've gotten used to it, and acutally do like it this short now. It is a LOT easier to take care of.
Answer by Rosehawk at 12:11 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by girlwithC at 10:26 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 10:53 AM on Apr. 5, 2013