Sad but true,my mom has always been one to expect everyone else to do for her. She absolutely refuses to take matters into her own hands. She plays the victim so many times,it's disgusting.
Back in 2001,she got evicted because she lost her job and could not pay her rent. Instead of looking for a new job,she decided to try to apply for SSI. She didn't qualify,but kept trying to appeal. A day before the sheriff was about to give her the boot,my grandma begrudgingly took her in.
She now lives alone,and is on SS since she is 68
She has COPD,and is oxygen dependent. Her doctor has given her 2 different anxiety drugs,but they're not working. She's afraid to leave the house. She thinks her oxygen tank will run out and she'll die.
She's become like a child. She wants me to do everything for her. She recently had to get a banking account because SS went paperless. OMG,that trip to the bank made me want to shoot myself in the face! How this woman got to this point in life and not know how to do anything is beyond me. She wants me to make out her checks and balance her checkbook. So far she has called me at least 2 dozen times about how to write a check. I even made her a template how to fill one out.
Her apartment building is being sold,so i told her she'll probably have to move,because the new owners will most likely raise the rent. Now I'm expected to find her a new place.She's not looking.
We take her shopping each week,and we get lunch beforehand (on us). She complains the whole time like a toddler.
it appears that in her older years,every single thing that was an issue in her life is multiplied 100X
I plan on going to her next doc appointment to talk to the doc about how she is,but if she won't do what he says,we're screwed
If she lived here with us,I'd kill myself within a few days.
I'm only 40,and I have an 11 year old son with autism. The thought of having to take on what essentially is another child,makes me want to scream.
She's not bad enough off for a nursing home yet,so that's out.
if she had been a decent mom throughout my life (don't even get me started on THAT),this would be less of an issue
Imagine someone with ZERO drive to do ANYTHING. The reason why doesn't change the situation. I can't force her to take pills,or see a shrink,or get out.trust me,I've tried til I'm blue in the face.
She has literally been like this the whole time i've been alive.
She'd rather sit there and be evicted,starve,sit in filthy clothes,then get up and do something about her situation
It's putting a major strain on my mental health
Answer by Rosehawk at 12:35 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 12:43 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Have you considered Assisted Living for her? This may be a good choice for her to have some independence (or gain some skills in that department) and have the assurance that she is being taken care of and medicine is being taken.
Answer by JeremysMom at 12:40 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
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