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I've been with A for 2 years. We live together with my 4 year old daughter. I've been thinking lately that I just see him as a friend now. After all this time he still does not love my daughter, and would still like to be able to do what he wants when he wants to. She isn't his kid, so he should have that freedom, I just think why live with someone who isn't ready for us? He is the most wonderful man though. He puts up with my complaints about school and work and helps me out a lot with my daughter. He picks her up from school and watches her when I can't (but that seems like he is babysitting, not just taking on a fatherly role). I couldn't decide if my feelings for him were changing because I've been so busy, or because he is looking for work and is not satisfied with what he is doing in life right now, or what it is. We went on vacation over spring break and I thought without being stressed or busy or anything I could really figure out how I felt about him and the whole time I didn't want to be alone with him. I liked being out and around other people and when it came to being in the hotel with him it felt awkward, not romantic like I hoped it would. He is so nice and loves me very, very much. He would do anything for me, and daily helps me with everything, rubs my back, is a great roommate, just a really great person. I broke up with him last night and he started moving things out this morning. I can't stop crying and I feel awful. I can't decide if I feel this way because I just feel bad for hurting such a good guy, or because I made the wrong decision. Maybe I could have stuck it out and maybe something would have changed? How do I know if what I did was right?Answer Question
Answer by LostSoul88 at 2:02 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:07 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
You have only been with him 2 years and you feel that way about him. You already fell out of love with him. and he sound like he want to be single anyways. You said he want to be able to do what he wants to do. I think you made the right choise. You and your DD are a package deal. It sounds like he didn't want the package.
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