My daughter went back to pre-K this week after Spring Break. She's always been well-behaved at school; her two teachers have said many positive things about her. But two out of the three days, she's come home this week telling me she got her clip moved to yellow. There's a system where if you're behaving well and following directions, your clip is on green. If you're pushing your luck, your clip is moved to yellow. If you've blown it, your clip is moved to red. She almost seems proud of herself, like getting her clip moved is a novelty or something. She knows exactly why the clip was moved, both times for talking during carpet time when everyone is supposed to be quiet and listen.
The first time I just talked to her about what I expect from her at school. That she needs to follow directions, be nice to other kids, be quiet when she's supposed to, etc. She agreed. But then she came back with the same issue, and when I asked her about it, she said some of her friends get their clips on yellow every day. So I'm wondering if it's peer pressure, but I'm kind of puzzled.
Anyway, I wouldn't let her ride her bike at the park this afternoon, which is her favorite thing to do right now. At first she was really upset, so I told her tomorrow she could make a different choice at school and get her bike back. Then she started saying she didn't care about her bike or the park anyway and she likes it when her clip is on yellow and the teachers aren't happy with her. That's pretty much a first, since she's usually kind of a pleaser who doesn't want anybody to be disappointed with her I asked her questions about school, trying to figure out if anything dfferent had been going on, but she didn't have much to say. No new kids, no bullying. The only change is that one of the aides recently had a baby, so there's a different aide in the afternoon now, but my daughter says she's nice.
So what am I missing here? Is this just regular five-year-old testing, or is there something I should be catching that I'm not?
Answer by jerseydiva at 8:14 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by girlwithC at 9:54 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
So you took away exercise for an issue they are handling at school??
Let the teachers deal with the school behavior unless they ask you to intervene... she is being punished twice for a minor offence.
Answer by Crafty26 at 10:32 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 7:10 AM on Apr. 5, 2013
Answer by louise2 at 7:49 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by staciandababy at 9:21 PM on Apr. 4, 2013
Answer by Traber at 8:20 PM on Apr. 5, 2013
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