This is kind of an odd situation that came up today. I'm not sure what to think. I don't read print, so my boyfriend goes through the mail and tells me anything that's important. He came in with the mail and said there was a note from a cousin of mine, so I was interested to hear what it had to say. He read it, then crumpled it up and tossed it in the trash. I asked him what was in the note, and he was very disgusted and said my cousin had heard something unkind about me from my sister, and that it was stupid and I didn't need to know what it was. I tried to get him to tell me, and he only said it was dumb and unfounded, and if I heard it, I'd just be upset and there was no reason for it.
That's all I can get out of him. Should I just decide he's protecting me and let it go, or push him to tell me, or talk to my cousin? My boyfriend said my cousin wrote the note because she probably didn't want to talk to my face about what my sister said. He told me he wouldn't worry about it all coming to bite me in the ass because it's just more of my sister's typical catty bullshit, which she's kind of famous for. I wish she had e-mailed me instead, at least.
Would you feel protected or violated? Would it bother you to know something had been said but not what it was? Or would you just trust that your man had good intentions and leave it at that?
I think he is a good man & trying to spare you from upset & unnecessary drama. I think it was the right thing to do. If you have the time & the energy on a day that you are feeling particularly No Nonsense, I'd call her & tell her that my DH thought your letter was such crap that he threw it in the trash & spared me from the drama but I'm calling to ask you to have the balls to say to me what you wrote in the note. Then tell her to shove her head up her as & lose your address & phone number.
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